I have always loved romance movies but I'm just not ready for the happily ever after yet. It's only been six months and still a little too fresh but HOPE one day to return to watching them. However, can totally relate to the phrase from the movie. I would imagine all of us here can relate.

It's been 2 years and 5 months for me and that phrase is exactly how I feel, but can't seem to make anyone else understand. Thank you for posting it. You have no idea how you've helped me. I know now I'm (possibly) normal.
Hugs to you,
Linda

I'ts also been 2 years and 5 months (Feb. 16 2015) for me. I'm glad my post helped you. It is frustrating that no one else understands. What you have to remember is that no one can really understand how it feels to lose the love of your life unless they have been through it too. It's why we really need this site. You are forever changed by this loss, but you are normal.
Hugs to you too
Frank

My husband passed away very suddenly on Feb. 17, 2015. Just one day after your wife. Thank you for reassuring me that I am indeed normal. I needed that so badly. Been going through a rough patch. You're right about this site. I don't know where I'd be without it.
Warm regards,
Linda

Yes I can actually attest to the how valid that line you quoted is. "It's been four years and it was yesterday" That's what it's been for me and I would add to the beginning of that line "It seems so long ago,........... We were married a little over 50 years and that also still seems like yesterday.
Geo.

Yes.

Well, here it is 1:34 am and I find myself sitting here listening to the rain and still thinking about a phrase from a movie. But that phrase kept me from going over the edge, even though it was just words written for drama. Because it's so true for me. Yes, it's been 2 years and 5 months since my sweet husband was here with me, and for those who think I should be "farther along", that's a long time. It is for me, too; sometimes it seems like forever. I've made it through every one of those 800+ days. But then every morning when I wake up to the realization that he really died and the woman I used to be died with him, it feels just like that first terrible morning, the one after the first "yesterday". I still find myself amazed sometimes when I go to my computer, that I'm clicking on a widow's support site. That kick in the gut that I am really a widow!!
I was beginning to question my sanity because I'm all alone in my grief as everyone else has moved on. They don't understand when I can't listen to certain songs or watch certain tv shows. They don't want me to talk about my husband. They're amazed that I still sometimes cry over beautiful memories instead of smiling. But they're not here in the middle of the night when I'm alone with those memories and long to be back in that time and place just one more time.
So... that one movie phrase made me realize that I don't have to feel as though I'm insane because I haven't reached the place where others think I should be in the allotted grief timeframe. I will keep on getting through the days, some better and some not. I may get used to being a widow, and I may not. I know I'll find the sunshine again and the new me, but it will be when the time is right for me. As it has to be for all of us. So now I've got that out. Thanks for listening.
Peace to all,
Linda

Four years and feels like yesterday...I feel like a person who has died and am in a new life..like a soap opera. Everyone thinks I'm doing so good. This new me may be but the old me is still in me somewhat and I'm still so petrified and miss him so ..I'm changing.

We each grieve in our own way, in our time...
It's been 4 years for me, some days are better than others.
I try to just keep pushing forward as each day dawns, some days don't hurt, some days do.
Only those in our situation can truly understand
Let others think what they may, we can't control them
We need to do what's best for us.
Our life has changed, our journey is now intertwined with grief.
Blessings
jdp