Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
Is the companionship, sharing a joke, being cherished and appreciated, being two and not being taken care of. We were married for 40 years and I would have happily continued for another 40 years.
My darling husband died 3 months and 3 days ago. It was sudden and unexpected. He did not know he was going to die and nor did I. We never said our goodbyes and I feel very sad about this. I am pleased to have found this support group because most people out there do not understand my grief. Many feel I should have recovered by now but as you know, three months is such a short time. In these past three months I had to learn fast how to deal with all the admin that a death entail - insurance, pensions, tax, etc it has been a real learning curve.
Like many of you some of my "friends" have vanished from day 1, some right after the funerals but bizarrely I am not feeling resentful because the one who are still around have shown how much they valued my friendship. Waste of time and energy to contact people who do not want to know.
I hope there will be light at the end of that long black tunnel and just reading your various comments has shown me that I am not alone.
Thank you. Papagena.
My darling husband died 3 months and 3 days ago. It was sudden and unexpected. He did not know he was going to die and nor did I. We never said our goodbyes and I feel very sad about this. I am pleased to have found this support group because most people out there do not understand my grief. Many feel I should have recovered by now but as you know, three months is such a short time. In these past three months I had to learn fast how to deal with all the admin that a death entail - insurance, pensions, tax, etc it has been a real learning curve.
Like many of you some of my "friends" have vanished from day 1, some right after the funerals but bizarrely I am not feeling resentful because the one who are still around have shown how much they valued my friendship. Waste of time and energy to contact people who do not want to know.
I hope there will be light at the end of that long black tunnel and just reading your various comments has shown me that I am not alone.
Thank you. Papagena.
I miss him being silly and talking as different characters..I miss kissing him.... and hugs.......
I do find Thursday's and the weekends the most painful out of all the painful days of the week. Every other weekend is the time I would spend with my wife. I have to work every other weekend, so this was a special time for me, always, to spend time with my wife. We always went out for rides together, pick up the grandchildren and get some groceries, doing what we needed to do and then enjoying our time together and our hobbies.
I do miss everything about my wife.
I miss his call at lunch time just to see how my day was going. Talking to friends and coworkers is not the same. They all have their own life to live.
We were married for 49 years. As we got older, we led a relatively quiet life. But it was a good quiet -- warm and comforting. Little things made me happy: seeing him after work; hearing his voice; holding his hand, looking over in the middle of the night and seeing him there. I wish I could propel myself backward into any one of those little moments.
It is so hard . . . as you all know!
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Maggie
I also miss his hugs, his wisdom (he was the wise reasonable one). I miss his constant love and his telling me I look perfect even if of course it was not true, but the eyes of the beholder...
Basically, I miss him full stop.