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What I miss

Truhal
Truhal
I really miss talking to my husband about trivial things--you know, stupid, unimportant things that no one really cares about, but that you're happy to share. Ex, that restaurant was torn down, or did you see that horrible dress so-and-so wore to the Golden Globes. Now I come home and there's no one to share this with. So, you know where this is going:

What trivial thing would you share with your spouse if they were here now?

I'll start: There is an actual name for this year for being the same age as your birth year. It's called the Beddian year, named after a firefighter who died in 9/11. Ex: If you're born in 1962 and you turn 62 than it's your Beddian year. It's called your golden year when you are the same age as your birth day. Who knew?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know exactly what you mean! Like driving down the road and saying to him "look what that crazy neighbor is doing now!"
Oh I definitely miss those trivial conversations, they meant so much.
deleted_user
deleted_user
agree with ya, I miss just having him here. I miss our Saturday morning garage sales... and singing to the radio together or when we would talk about dumb stuff
deleted_user
deleted_user
I miss calling him when I would leave work or done with dr's. It just the little things.
lostmygem
lostmygem
Beside living together we worked together for the past 5 years. I miss him walking in the door at home and smiling at me as if he hasn't seen me all day when I just left the office an hour earlier.
silverfoxwife
silverfoxwife
I had lunch with my husband's friends and their spouses last weekend. One of the wives asked me what was the hardest thing for me. I told her it was not having him around to talk with. I missed him calling me by my nick name that he had given me.
cathylynn58
cathylynn58
Every night before he became sick we would do the USA Today crossword puzzle. He would sit I would lie with my head in his lap and he would stroke my hair. One of many things I miss about him.
Jeff-Bolen
Jeff-Bolen
We would go to Starbucks every Saturday morning just to sit and people watch and talk. I miss that. I haven't gone back since she passed away. I miss hearing about her work day, her boss was crazy and she always had a story about something that had happened during the day. I miss her behind me when I ride our motorcycle. I just miss her and I cry when I think about all these things I will never get to do with her again.
lovie4ever
lovie4ever
My husband had two best friends and would be on the phone with either one every day. I miss him telling me stories about them, they were like high school girls always on the phone but we always laughed at the situations they would get themselves into... That's just one of many....
deleted_user
deleted_user
I miss riding in the car, with him driving, and I would slide my left arm under his right, and we would just hold hands and listen to the radio
Community LeaderShrn
Shrn
Hearing him say, "Want a cup of coffee?"
When I replied "yeah, ok"
He would say, "great, get me a cup too, would you"

That and hearing him say, "Hey, look, it's 11:11" He always noticed when the time hit 11:11 AM or PM. Sharon
Dreamer40
Dreamer40
There are so many things! We have a 1982 Dodge PU with bench seat, and on all our long trips (or even just to town) I always sat in the middle next to him, even though it was a four-on-the-floor.
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And every Friday night we would go the 10 miles in to the Mexican restaurant in town for dinner and at some point in the ride (or earlier in the day...or even the day before), one of us would ask, "What are you gonna have?". It was just a silly little competition to see who could ask it first but it always gave us a good laugh.

There were so many things.......so many things.....

Marilyn
Porchpuppy
Porchpuppy
This is the time of year we would usually go on vacation and I miss him studying the maps. If we were on our trip he would be plotting where we were going next. When we got home he would be looking at where we had been and planning the next adventure. He never saw a road he did not want to travel.
penntehe63
penntehe63
Loved reading everyone's answers to a great question!
"Dreamer40", we did the same question when driving to our favorite restaurants..."So what do you think you'll have?"
When driving on trips, he did all the driving, I read maps well and we never got lost.
I told our 2 boys that I was Dad's Navigator. They'd tease and say I was really his "Nag-igator"...so I called myself his Nag-igator to the very end. We laughed a lot together. I'd tell stories and always finish with, "Right, Dad?"...and he'd agree saying, "Right, Dad." And we'd laugh again...just typing that brings tears...
hope54
hope54
I too miss so many things but something the other day really made me miss him. Ken always watched the history channel and discovery channel and was interested in learning. The other night there was a story about how they were going to move the Costa cruise ship that had sunk in Italy. I watched the show because I knew he would be so interested in how they were going to get that ship moved. I was watching it for him.
Community Leadercliffskat
cliffskat
Cliff and I shared 30 years together, and in that time we had conversations about everything under the sun. He was a brilliant man, truly, so it was easy for him to discuss intelligently the very complex and yet he was totally calm talking about nonsense, too. We used to finish each other's sentences as well.

I guess for trivial stuff today it would either be the fact that David Bowie just released a new album - his first in several years and it's supposed to be wonderful as music was an integral part of our life together; OR maybe the news that the next royal baby is due in July. Princess Diana was pregnant with Prince William when I was pregnant with our first child, and our friends kidded us a lot about our own "crown prince."