hi Royal...
What a coincidence... I was just thinking about you then saw this post, and I was just talking with another widow about the same thing; what to do with my rings.
My friend had hers re-fashioned into a beautiful 'memory' ring - both were melted down and the diamonds put into new settings. She wears it on her right ring finger now.
Me - I thought of having the ring made into a pendant, in a sideways figure 8 with the diamonds in the centre - so they still look like rings but different. I've an anniversary ring which needs repair that I'll wear on my right hand. Nothing on my left hand unless I remarry.
If you want, wear them. Either hand is fine. I had one widow tell me she wore hers until she felt ready to move forward and start dating again (she was widowed at 27 due to a car accident).
At some point, if you find you don't want to wear them, then make a choice then what to do for the future.

My husband passed away in July. I haven't done anything with the rings. I'm like you though, I feel like it's a sad reminder to wear mine.

I'm going to look for replies on this thread to see if anyone has any ideas.

hugs,
Janie

Took mine off the day she passed. Got this weird idea of putting them both on a padlock and throwing away the keys. Have the lock sitting in a designer vase on our dining room table. Yes, I'm kinda weird.

Well, its been 6 months since my husband passed away & I still wear my rings and I wear his wedding ring on the finger right next to mine. I still am married as far as I am concerned, Just because he died does not make me feel like I am no longer his wife. I will always be his wife. Maybe someday in the future I will wear the rings on a chain, but for now, they are staying right where they are. Peace to us all.

It is almost 6 month since, my huband, Ben, passed. I still wear my rings. At this point I am still very much, Ben's wife. Maybe sometime in the future, I will be ready to not wear them. Then I will know I have moved forward.
I know this topic has been brought up before. Only now, I realize just how significant these answers are!

Have a good Sunday,
Sandra

I have moved my rings to my right hand and wear them together with his ring. It hurt too much to look at them on my left hand. It's been 8 months and I moved them at about 5-6 months. This feels right for now.

I took mine off about 4 or5 months ago it feels kinda funny not having them on.

This was hard for me as well. I took them off and put them back on more than once. You will know when the time is right for you. It was a sad reminder for me so did put them away in a safe place for some day. I am not sure what I will do with mine and his but I feel like it will come to me! This process is hard enough so just go with what your heart tells you. There is no rush!

Right after his death i wore his ring too because it brought me comfort to be able to touch it; however I took mine off at 9 months once I found out about infidelity. Had it not been for that I would never had taken off the rings. I was actually looking at adding a widows ring for his one-year anniversary which is on January 15th. I agree with others you will know deep down if and when you are ready to remove your rings. Good luck!

mea ,so sorry to hear about what you had to find out about.i can imagine how it feels

Hi All . . . I'm approaching 9 months and still wear my rings. I love them and I'm still Mrs. Schwartz. Perhaps this will change in the future, but for now they are a part of "me". Warm round of hugs to all . . D

I wore my rings for several years after his death, because they gave me comfort and I wasn't wanting to accept the fact he had died. I felt somehow they kept me safe. In time I began to accept that I no longer needed them to live so I chose to give them to my daughter. Before giving them to her they sat in my jewelry box.

As so many others have suggested you are free to wear them or remove them when you decide. There is no right way, it's your way. Sharon

Cliff and I were together a long time - 30 years. I accumulated a stack of rings in that time: engagement ring, wedding ring, 2nd wedding ring when we renewed our vows, and 2 anniversary/eternity rings. He was buried with his original wedding ring because we couldn't remove it and it felt right to bury him in that, but I have his 2nd wedding ring from when we renewed our vows. So that was 6 rings!

Eventually, I had a family ring made to match the anniversary rings - it has Cliff's birthstone in the middle, our two sons' birthstones, and interspersed are diamonds which are my birthstone. I moved my wedding rings to my right hand and wore the family ring with my anniversary rings on my left hand. I cried when I did that, but it felt right. That was at about 2-3 months after his death.

The 2nd wedding rings I wear on a chain as a pendant as Cliff's hands were so large and mine kind of small, so my ring fits inside of his and just looks like a double-circle pendant. Here is a photo of how they look together:

http://www.dailystrength.org/people/147213/photos-videos/16

I am remarried now, so have a new set on my left hand, but I wear the family ring on my right hand now.

There is no right or wrong on this, only what makes you happy. Some never move the rings or remove the rings. Some remove them and save them for children or grandchildren in the future.

Hope this helps......

Love and Hugs,
Martha

I took my rings off about a month after Paul passed and put his and mine in the safe. Like you, it was too painful to wear them. Then a few months later I got mine out(solitaire and wrap but left the wedding band with Paul's) and I wear it on my right hand. Whatever we choose to do is the right thing and we can change our minds as often as we want.

I am still wearing mine. A fellow Moose member the other day said to his wife, "look she is still wearing her wedding rings". I told them I am still Mrs. Cooper. I smile when I put them on because they remind me of my life with Art. God, I miss that man!!! Hugs to you all. Hope you find some peace and comfort today.