Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I lost my husband of 38 years in early November 2016 to gastric cancer. He had his official diagnosis October 30,2015. From there we spent going through chemotherapy every 2 weeks. He finally had a break in July and his mri couldn't show the cancer. Then, we rejoiced even though he had been told his cancer was Stage 4 and there was no cure. That he had 'months' instead of 'years' to live. It's been a hard year, living in trepidation and probably anxiety to see what the next petscan/mri/cat scan would show. During the time he had no treatment, we enjoyed our time, trying to get back into life we knew again. But it was not the same. However, we dealt with this life as well as we could with no treatment. When it was time to be checked again, we found out the cancer had grown back. This was after Labor Day weekend. A new 'regimen' would be started as the former chemo would not work now. This regimen would be every 3 weeks instead of 2. It was stronger. His hair started falling off. The realization hit us big time. The nausea did not go away. He got tired and weak. When it was time for the next treatment after 3 weeks, he had made up his mind not to continue treatments anymore. This was a major life decision we then faced. I didn't really believe that he would be gone. The last 10 days of his life were spent in the hospital as he had to have pain meds intravenously. He never ate again. Just liquids and lots of ice. This was very hard but he would still talk to us until the last morning. He passed in his deep slumber. I am still in deep mourning and sometimes I don't know if I can take another day.
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Just thought I would join this group now that I am a widower. My wife passed away May 28th. She was "The Wind Beneath My Wings". When I met her, I was a drunken, dope smoking, fighting, hell raising biker. She told me if I could get rid of the inner storm within me, that I could be a blessing to people. God placed her in my path to stop me. I have been drug and alcohol free now for 53...
I found anxiety to be the worst, to deal with and did get something for it, four months in, after my daughter made me an appointment and me go too the doctor.. I no longer take anything...
Just remember as fortunate to have had him in your life, he was as fortunate to of had you in his...And make it a point to always use his name..when speaking to people..I find sometimes they find it hard, to use Dennis's name..I won't let them forget...;-)
Please read, Signs..posted under Laurie...
When someone we Love becomes a Memory, the Memory becomes a Treasurer..
Peace and hugs...Gail....
A smile will come, you will begin a different normal. Look for the positive in your day: you get up, you get dressed, you eat, you go to church.
As we adjust to our journey, we are blessed to know that He is faithful.
jdp