Can not run away from the memories they will always be there within you. Have self compassion for yourself,give yourself time to cope with this. I find myself laughing sometimes now..but the emptiness is hard. I used to feel like somebody and now i feel like no body. But i continue to breathe and try to go for walks. I watched a heron sitting on a rock today and wondered what they think...it was just sitting there for a good hour or more..( Hugs)

It is a hard decision. My husband passed 8 months ago, we were together 24 years. I was left with only my kids as my family lived 3,000 miles away. It was hard being so far so I chose to sell my house and moved closer to my family. I still have teenagers at home so it helped to be around their uncl and cousins. I miss my old house but I don’t regret the move. But I must caution, you can move but the feelings are still there. For me , my husband died at home so it never felt right living there but I still think about him every day.

It's diffently a hard decision. I did sell my house after 5 years because I retired and moved back to Mn. I wish I would have kept my house & just come back home more often.
I had just finished upgrading my home inside & out now when I look at pictures I realize what a jewel I had my husband made it perfect for me up until he got sick & died. I'm ok with this house still things to fix up only now I have to pay people to get things done. Im in Mn and plan on being a snowbird to escape the winters its just not the same without our spouse. Think it over & just do what you need to do for yourself to move on. Memories will always be with you if you sell or not. I keep my pictures & memories in the best spot ever in my heart.
Bonnie

thanks guys

Thankfully we sold our house before my husband was diagnosed with lung cancer. We were downsizing and planned to retire. If I still had the house I don't think I would sell it unless I needed to financially. Even after a year, we're still not thinking clear. Too many emotions surrounding the loss.
Do you have a place you want to Go? We celebrated our 40th Wedding Anniversary a couple months before he was diagnosed. Took me a while not to know something was wrong. Wish you the best in what you decide. Sharon

no place to go, thinking of las vegas, free drinks, legal weed and gambling, my children say go for it

I rent, so it's not a matter of whether to sell or not to sell. It's just a matter of how and when. Tentatively, I plan to move back to the Midwest - forget this rain that we have an overabundance of here. I have moved 6 times in the last 7 years, and it's a big, big job. I told my kids that I would have to have help to do it again. Or sell everything and start over. I have some friends 2500 miles away who say they might come move me. I also want to mention to those who are considering another relationship, to be upfront with the person about geographical location. If neither of you are willing to "sell the farm," let that be a red flag by itself. Just sayin'...

I think it would be a good idea to take a trip away from home. I don't think you need to sell, I think you need a break.

For me, looking around the house to see everything that was done jointly/decided together without him there was very, very hard. And I think there is something in the subconscience that feels jarring when you see a familiar scene but the oerson you expect to see in it is not there. I couldn't change everything in the house all at once, that would have been silly and also hard on our kids, but I did redo our room so that it became "my" room instead of "our" room, and that helped a lot. I finally had a place that was a respite from all the reminders of my loss.

My advice would be to chose a room and redo it for your own comfort, and also to take a vacation to literally 'get away from it all' if you feel the need. I think you will probably find after you get home that you still prefer it there, but I could be wrong.

Never make such a big decision without trying things out first. I did an exploratory trip in the first year after Cliff died, and it was pretty disastrous. I wasn't ready. You might be, I couldn't tell you, but give youself some wiggle room before you do anything major.

Hope this helps....

Love and Hugs,
Martha