same thing happened to me, been about 10 weeks. A I guess sonic boom hit by our house yesterday afternoon, I thought a tree fell on the house, scared me, I so missed hubby. Last night was up late working, could not sleep, when I did get in bed the tears flowed. Reality setting in, he is not here and is not coming back. I don't like it either. I have grown kids but they have their lives. Thank God I still have my dog. Today I found a big part of deck railing was pulled loose by whatever happened, so wanted to show hubby as he built the deck and would know what to do. Sigh

Jaja27
I,m so sorry for your loss. There are so many times that I thought I was getting stronger and for no reason at all I would burst into tears. It has been almost a year since my husband passed.I understand about feeling alone. Even when I'm with friends or family I still feel alone.

I understand what you mean jaja27. I'm at 5 months, so just know the days will be up and down. Just remember to take it one day at a time.

Cry as much as you need to. It is hard to figure out a future, but just try to focus on 1 thing, and move on from there. Be blessed.

Geminii74

at 11 months... it still happens to me....I think it will always happen.

It is all still so new for you. I cannot tell you that things will ever return to "normal" but you do get to a place on the new road where you feel able to put one foot in front of another. Meanwhile be gentle with yourself my dear, and do not try to time your grieving - go through the experience because there is no way around it,

Hi Janice, I am only at about 12 weeks and there have been days when I thought "hey, I'm gonna be ok". I know this is so early for you too but I understand how it feels to think its going in the right direction and then get slammed with tears and sadness. I get up in the morning sometimes feeling ok and when I drive by the bank where Anne worked I lose it. This happens a lot. I think we just have to keep pushing through the pain and not around it. At least I have some time each day when I feel ok. Last night I started thinking about some of the fun silly things we did around each other all the time. Then I made the mistake of listening to Mercy Me's Homesick. That did me in for the night. Just keep hanging in there one day at a time. You can do this!

Robbie

You are still early on in this journey. Don't worry it's normal.
Sometimes I feel like I take 2 steps forward and 3 back.

Diane

In a grief book I read it is called grief waves. They do hit when you least expect them and they feel like a step backward but they aren't. The leader of a grief support group explained them to me it is stuff you need to internalize or unfinished business. Basically just another step in the process to healing. When they hit though it is incredibly painful. I am truly sorry today is such a rough day. Have experienced many over the last year and they do pass. I hated them but had to learn to work through them. God bless. Gerald

Janice - it's not a matter of being stronger or weaker. Doing stuff, managing in our day to day life - kudos for that. But it has little to do with the emotional side of grief. You'd been with your sweet husband a very long time. It will take time to sort through it all. Take it easy on yourself, no expectations! hugs, Marsha

Gerald spoke of grief waves, that's an image I use when I feel like I'm having a bad time or set back. I picture myself planting my feet and bracing as an ocean wave passes over me, and that I am still standing after it is gone.

I am at all six months and some days are good, some days are bad.
This week I am having someone fix my ceiling and then paint the living room. I thought that I would be okay just a little paint and the ceiling needed to fixed. I cried and cried last night. My husband and I chose the paint the last time it was paint and he painted it. So depending on what is happening is how my moods change.
I know that as long as I live I will cry at times. That is okay. It has to be.

I have those also at 6 months. Gerald hit it out of the park with his answer.Grief waves or attacks are your mind's way of slowly healing by allowing you just so much pain at a time until we hopefully will heal, but never forget. Please do me a favor everyone, go to YouTube and search:Dr. Bill Webster Grief Attacks. It's really helped me to understand how letting out the pain helps us. He has other videos as well that got me through before I found all of you. He lost his wife suddenly, and had to raise his 2 boys. Awesome guy, cool Scottish accent too. Big hug Janice, from Matt and I both.

I am at almost 6 months now. Some days I'm okay, other days I'm a mess and can't see the point in a life without him. Its the smallest things that can set me off and I think as long as I live I am going to have to deal with the grief waves Gerald has mentioned

It sucks being behind a computer, wish i could help practically. been a month for me, today is a 'good' day. . . It's like we're all on the same horrible merry-go-round. I do think it might help to take the advice of the people who have been on the merry-go-round for a long time they have a better perspective

What a wonderful group you all are... I always feel better when I read all the responses that I receive...I guess I am not so alone after all.
Hugs to each and everyone of you!
Janice