Yes, it is like a memory hits me and tears flow. Take care

Early on in my grieve (About 2 months), I was on a treadmill at the YMCA when out of the blue a grieve attack hit like a Mack truck... I managed to get down to the locker room where I had a full meltdown and strangers worried that I was hurt ...I kept telling people that I was o.k. as my heart was breaking all over again. One lady came and sat next to me and kept asking if I was hurt , if I needed anything, anyone. Finally I just said "I am just having a grieve attack " . She said o.k. , got up and went about her business but anytime someone else went to ask me if I was o.k., I could hear her say "It's o.k. I've got this" , saving me further embarrassment... I was finally able to grab my stuff, go take my shower and compose myself and I never saw her again but I am thankful for that person to have understood and run interference that day.

Like you, I was working out and was doing good that day. And it really hit out of the blue and did not make sense . The thing to remember is that it was probably needed. The tears help rid of toxins that build up in our system and the body and mind knows .

Hugs xoxo

Yes, I had it happen in the grocery store when I was 2 or 3 months into the grieving process. It's been five months and I knew I wasn't going to get over this in five minutes, but sometimes I am astonished at the depths of my grief.

Take care.

Sylvia

Yes, I had "grief bursts" for a very long time. It was terrible when they would happen at work especially. I think that sometimes they hit when the mind has been freed up because we're doing something else. When you were deadlifting, the focus was more automatically physical so that you mind and heart weren't so involved. It's almost as if the our emotions are a rubber band getting wound up and wound up and wound up, and we just keep trying to get on with life when - SNAP! - it lets go and the tears pour out. You can't stuff your feelings away forever, you can't stay busy enough for them to go away. Basically, grief will have its due.

I have talked with a number of widows/widowers over the years who have had similar experiences, and also many of us had that response when we were getting a massage or receiving chiropractic adjustments. I had one chiro adjustment to my mid-back and it caused me to burst into tears. I was not in any physical pain - it was like a release of something I didn't even realize was being stored up.

Exercise of any kind is a good way to relieve stress. It's a good idea to do some exercise on a daily basis. I used to walk on my coffee breaks -- 10-15 minutes in the morning and in the afternoon, just around the block - and it helped a lot. I slept better, handled my daily work stress better, etc.

Hang in there......

Love and Hugs,
Martha

I have similar experiences. I noticed they happen a lot when I'm in my car. I suddenly get an image & then the feeling of sadness is overwhelming. I lost my husband of 33years just over a year ago. In 2005 I lost my oldest daughter too. Losing a child changed me. My husband gave me strength but now he's gone. I'm trying unsuccessfully to move forward.

Yes, I have had bursts of grief too while working out. Martha, I think you explain it well, you are trying to keep busy but the grief will have it's due and just bust out. I don't feel so uncomfortable about it but I know it makes other people uncomfortable so I try to keep it as discrete as possible, ha easier said than done sometimes. Some music is impossible for me to listen to, there was one time in the produce section at the grocery store and a song came on over the stores speakers and whew, it took all my powers not to break down sobbing. I agree that it helps to walk and get exercise because it is a positive thing to do.

Home Depot, in the bathroom aisle. Walmart. Food Lion, in the pudding aisle. Held myself back from a sobbing mess, but the tears came.

Yes, tears come at the most odd times. I have had my granddaughter staying for a few days and I'm never far from tears when I think how much her Poppy (Grandad) loved her and would so love playing cards and chequers with her.....then wham, the sickness in the stomach starts and the tears are never far away.

A favorite quote...
"Perhaps our eyes need to be washed by our tears once in a while, so that we can see life with a clearer view again..."

There is a common belief that we hold a lot of our emotions in our hips. More often than not in yoga when we are doing hip stuff, I will cry (before S died, I would also get very angry...now it's mostly tears). Maybe in the deadlift, the stored emotion was released. Or maybe it was just one of those moments as others mentioned. They do randomly show up from time to time.

Triggers for grief can be anywhere. Crying is a sign of healthy grieving. The depth of our grief shows the depth of love we felt for our spouse. I lost my spouse of 41 years to Parkinson's last May. I just had a grief attack before I logged on to this site. Much sobbing and then I wrote a letter to him, which helped. We've all been blessed to have been loved so deeply. Blessings.

Grief attacks can happen anywhere and at anytime..my Mother died when i was 12 and out of the blue i will remember her..thats 48 years ago now..they can happen and will ((Hugs))

My husband passed in 2009 but there are still moments when I find myself suddenly in tears for what seems like no apparent reason at all. Moments just hit us by surprise sometimes. I guess that's just the way it is.....and it's perfectly normal.