Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I've just passed the three year mark in this terrible, debilitating journey which none of us planned for. I am truly sorry for the new members who have found their way to this group of lovely, understanding people. I am so sorry for the loss which brings you here. My name is Gail and my husband Michael died from pancreatic cancer at the age of 62 and I was 53 when he died. I have learned to do so many things on my own and I take pride in this but I still have to wake up everyday without him. I have accepted this but I still feel this deep down ache in my stomach every morning when I wake up without him. It's one day at a time I believe or even one minute at a time if that's what it takes. This is a hard, long road but we do survive this terrible thing. The feeling of being cut in half and only having half a life is real when you lose the person who was the other half who made you whole
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Today I feel grateful. Grateful for my dog Blue (Blue Jean Baby Queen, Prettiest girl I've ever seen). Grateful I'm still kickin'. Grateful I'm finally taking responsibility for my health. Grateful I own my home. Grateful for good friends and neighbors who watch over me. Grateful to God for His everlasting love and patience with me. Grateful I survived the 10 years since my wife of 30 years...
I'm sorry for your loss. That sick feeling in the stomach is awful. I feel like it's never going to go away.
I am so sorry for your loss. I am at seven years. I know that I will never quit missing my husband. We were having such a good time prior to his cancer diagnosis; we had no idea that life was going to take such a drastic turn in a short period of time. I have survived without him but still feel a part of me was ripped away, never to be replaced. Being a widow was never part of the plan. I can certainly relate to your posting. Roxanne
The shock when he died in hospital is still with me,
The long lonely nights are the worst.
I used to be a very sociable person, now I dont want to leave the house.
I understand how bad all the folk on here feel, and hugs and strength to all suffering out there .
Dellasx
But " the two" God says,"shall become one." Not the 2 halves.The 2 wholes, get it? So we are always whole people with whole lives even though our spouses were torn from us. The mystery is great like the scripture says.