So very true, I have friends and family to do things with, but miss my special person to spend everyday life with. There is such a huge hole in my heart and an emptiness in my life. I understand perfectly.

Ah you worded that well. How I feel every minute of every day. I am the loneliest I have ever been and ever thought I could endure. Is it that people just don't know what to say to me anymore? Is it that I have become something no one understands. I don't hear from many of my friends anymore. Am I the only one who feels like an alien in a foreign land? I have wondered if it's my imagination, but it's hard not to notice. So many were there for us, for me, for so long. Now it seems I'm not important anymore. I wish I could just pick up and move across the country. The kids and I have only one another. I often think it would be less lonely in a place where we don't know anyone than at home feeling alone and, well, forgotten.

Somewhere I read Two people in love alone, isolated from the world, thats beautiful.
I cant have it anymore and I miss it, being a center of somebodys life. Just two of us our daily routine, nothing special everything special.

This really rings true! I try to keep busy with activities, have very good friends to do things with (and, I suspect, a plan they have to introduce me to someone during a social event they have coming up)...but when all of this is done, it's back to an empty house. I have no fear of being alone and am capable of handling most of the practical things...just missing things like that morning cup of coffee together, spur of the moment decisions not to cook and instead grab a bite, working in the yard...all of the everyday stuff we take for granted.

As I sit here alone drinking my coffee, I totally agree! I have thought about this in regard to having another relationship someday and I feel almost guilty. I am not looking for another romantic relationship, I feel more of a need for companionship. Would that be something that would make someone else feel used? Someone to do the everyday things with, take a trip with, take the grandkids fishing, etc. Just a few of the random thoughts that float through my head as I spend hour upon hour alone!

This statement is so true. I have told my kids that when my coworkers ask what my plans are for the weekend, they are so thrilled if I tell them i have something to do with someone. I can see in their eyes the relief that I am out there doing things. I even had one tell me I just needed to stay active and busy. But its all those other quiet hours of the day as you all know when I feel his absence so deeply.

It is true that we miss the "little" things the most. I don't even enjoy watching a tv show in the evening without him here. Nothing is special anymore. We didn't have to do anything big; just the fact that we were doing it together was enough. I even loved going with him to Home Depot or the golf store. I miss grocery shopping with him. He was in my life every minute of every day and now "poof" he is gone. It still seems unreal.

No one understands how quiet lonely is until they are left alone without their spouse! I sometimes walk until my feet hurt just so I do not have to be alone in the empty space in which I now live!

Thank you for the Quote, It sums up the way many of us feel. All those little "nothings' is exactly all the things Don and I enjoyed doing. We liked especially sitting on our Porch in the evening having coffee and watching the moon come up over the mountains, it was such a beautiful site, I still sit on the porch but it is lonely without him.

So true, just being together was all we needed. I can't even watch a show on TV that we watched regularly and it is now13 months for me. There are so many memories that we had together and now he isn't here to talk about them and no one else knows them. No one "gets" how we are really feeling, the lonliness, sadness and longing we have for our other half, they won't until it happens to them. I really don't know how I would mange without this site! You are all wonderful!

I had never really thought of it like that. Profound.

Perfect, just how I feel. I was angry with a friend who lives 6 houses away. She never comes over anymore . Found new " couple" friends.
I told her my address and said if u ever want a cup of coffee, this is where I live in case u forgot. She texted back, I think u r going nuts! Nice, huh?
She said nothing's changed. Really? She hasn't been in my house for over 4 months. Mmmmmmm.
Anyway, no they don't get it. I'm not looking for a lot. A cup of coffee and conversation on porch.
Sad but true.

Exactly how I feel, as well. I haven't watched tv since my love passed away in March 2013...Most of the time, I don't know what to do with myself...so lost and so empty inside. I think I've tried almost everything that supportive family, friends, and therapists have suggested but nothing could fill the void inside my heart. Even being in church, I feel so alone. One can really feel sad and lonely amidst a crowd!

This is so true. Reminds me of the song. "Little Things Mean A Lot".
I miss the little things so much!!! My husband would ask me to turn around and he would "fix" my hair. Then hug me and say you look so good.

Little Things Mean A Lot

Blow me a kiss from across the room
Say I look nice when I'm not
Touch my hair as you pass my chair
Little things mean a lot
Give me your arm as we cross the street
Call me at six on the dot
A line a day when you're far away
Little things mean a lot
Don't have to buy me diamonds or pearls
Champagne, sables and such
I never cared much for diamonds and pearls
cause honestly honey, they just cost money
Give me a hand when I've lost the way
Give me your shoulder to cry on
Whether the day is bright or gray
Give me your heart to rely on
Send me the warmth of a secret smile
To show me you haven't forgot
That always and ever, now and forever
Honey, little things mean a lot.

oh this is so true. When I would be in one room, it was comforting knowing he was in another room. Now, it's just so lonely knowing that he's not anywhere in the house.