1. "Hes not suffering anymore.:
Ummmm, he was never suffering!!! What does that even mean!!
2. Well, at least your pretty and got that going for you.
....geez thanks. Maybe that will encourage frank to return to me. Wtf
3. It was his time.
Right. Of course just like all the other freak unfortunate accidents that happen. Get out of here with that nonsense
4. Well, I know you feel, I divorced my wife of 15yrs.
Uhhhh ..no.... you guys made a choice. I didnt have one.
5. My mom calls me and says, its been a few weeks. When do you think you will stop this and return to your normal you?? We are really worried about you.
---ummm what about never. Il never be who I was before. Im forever changed.
6. At the funeral, his aunt came up to me and said, Im sorry for his loss but think about it. We will all die someday. I wanted to punch her in the face
7. How did he die?? What happened??? Were his eyes opened or closed when it happened?-'yea. I totally feel like reliving the moments with you and why in gods name do you need such graphic details
8. Was he sick? Well its easier ya know...if he was sick.
--- hmm no not really. Hes still gone.
9. Oh a heart attack?! Well...that happens to about 900,000 people a year so dont feel bad.
- thanks im glad im in the statistical pool of the most common things that can occur. I feel better already. Omg.
10. Well, at least you have your kids.
Why do people say this one? I love them but they do not at all fulfill the role of a spouse or partner. Plus, mine are adults and have their own lives! I hate when people say that. As if im to be okay loosing one life in exchange for another.

1. 2days after he passed his sisters came over and asked for the olive oil and wine. We used to buy from italy and give it to them as gifts during holidays. Im crying and they are packing up wine and oils.
The next day his brother calls and asks what im doing with his motorcycle. As if im prepared to answer these questions. He then reminds me that I Surely cannot ride his motorcycle and he can take it off my hands. . Really? I dont think I need to be reminded of anything seeing how Im presently living it!

Martha! We are on a roll! This is a good thread. Nice to vent. One more for ya, from my mom whose been married 43yrs
Why are you so upset ? You Will see him again! You act like you will never see him again. Just be happy you met him and spent time with him.
--ummm i want him now. Not 40yrs from now! I want what we had here...in this life!

"We all have to die someday."
"You still have his memories."
"He's in a better place, walking on streets of gold."

I had to move what was left of the tools to my storage unit because so many people were casing out my garage. One brother wanted his clothing after I had donated the majority of it to Goodwill (How can you wear the clothing of the deceased? Not for me.) So many offers of help and "call if you need anything." When you ask, they are too busy, so you quit asking and hire it done or do it yourself. Oh, and his truck. I ended up getting ripped off on that, big time. So much was supposedly wrong with it until after the sale, and then it was running like a top! What a miracle, huh?!? Plus the man took most of it as a trade-off for work on my other vehicles, and charged outrageously for labor. I ended up with $600 cash for a Toyota Tacoma. Leah, you definitely got me going....

one of my supervisors at work after two years expressed her disgust that I never worked at weekend and felt my husband should take them occassionally (obviously to young to be widowed but well grumpy enough to be divorced) I expressed to here that the council took exception to me leaving them in the grave yard over the weekend and she really was the worded manager I'd ever worked with and should take a hike.

The spare bedroom closet which has bins of my late husband's shirts, hats, etc,, which relatives refer to as "the death closet", hmmm, ok, thank you for that. My favorite of all time, is the very famous quote of, "oh just get on with life, he's gone, he's not coming back. Duh, like I didn't know that. People can be so thoughtless.

"I'm sure it's how he wanted to go" - right, in my arms with me screaming.

"You have to be strong for your boys now." Like I didn't know that. And conversely and just as perversely, telling my sons to "be strong for your mother" and really screwing their heads up, like they weren't supposed to grieve.

A book store had placed an order for some of the books he published, and I explained that he had passed. The man replied back saying he would pray for him! Okay Lazarus, come forth?

My husband passed away 2 weeks ago....I have heard heaven got an angel, the no longer suffering, in a better place. When are you moving to name a few.

My husband had taken our car to be repaired and I had no idea where it was. When I finally found it I called the guy and he said he had heard about my husband and was sorry. He then proceeded to talk for an hour about how his 2 year old dog had just died from cancer. He was so distraught he couldn't even put up a xmas tree. He loved that dog and she was so young blah blah blah for an HOUR. I love dogs and understand so didn't want to be rude but my husband had died of cancer just days/ maybe weeks prior so I eventually started hyperventilating and needed to get off the phone.

I know exactly how you feel. My father died 2 years ago.

3 weeks after my husband died, at a family Christmas dinner that I was guilted into attending, My Aunt: I am so sorry "W" brought up Tony. (he included him in a prayer before dinner). Was that too hard for you? (No. What was too hard for me was no one else mentioning his name or anything about his death and acting super happy and giving me gifts like glittery sparkly "date night' sweaters).

My next door neighbor said " Jordan is in the past now, you just have to forget about him and move forward now. Just put one foot in front of the other", and It was TWO WEEKS since he died!!!!

It's amazing how thoughtless people can be....