Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I would like to wish everyone a Happy, healthy New Year..my prayers and best wishes are with you all and I thank GOD to be able to post here......been working way too much with no time to get on this site, but you have been in my thoughts for sure....thank GOD I can work and pay bills....still mounds of paperwork/ bills/red tape, but getting things resolved slowly...58 days without Dee....I would like to say it gets easier or maybe less difficult with time, but perhaps too early.... First New Years and Christmas holiday in 27 years without her...and all of those people who said they would be around weren't....got no invite anywhere for New Year's Eve..and no calls or texts from anyone other than two texts from our daughter who was out of town and one from a Co-worker at 8pm...better earlier than never I guess....I will try to convince myself that maybe everyone thought someone else would ask me, so they didn't...I think I will attempt to start a church ministry based on making sure others in my situation aren't virtually or actually overlooked- even if it's just a call...watched Honeymooners marathon( still on in background now)....Dee never liked it but we did watch The Twilight Zone marathon together...she loved the old movies,which I enjoyed watching with her....wish I could still....thanks for reading...in my prayers...Alex
It's almost as though we suddenly become invisible when we are widows/ widowers. Back at work today and 4 of us went to lunch - I asked each one how their Xmas / New Year was - I listened and commented on each of their stories and NOT ONE of them asked how my Xmas / New Year was!
I admit to loving greeting cards, I have a Hallmark membership. :)
I love buying and sending cards for all occasions.
This year I received a fraction of the Christmas cards that I used to get.
Do people think I don't want a card because my husband's gone?
I didn't hear from two of his friends at all.
I sent Christmas cards to everyone who was on last year's list. It makes me feel like I've been forgotten.
And one of my friends sent me a "thinking of you" card instead of a birthday card!
Yes, people disappear just when we need them the most.
Hugs,
Janie
It seems nearly all the newly-widowed experience the unexpected cut-off of contact from old friends. A few caring people realize that this is the time to stay in touch. A local grief support group is sometimes the answer to making new friends who understand.