I keep telling myself that everyday is hell, so why is this silly holiday crap make it worse.

I always cooked the big dinner and on The day before I made all the ordervies and Wayne would smaple all of them.

I am invited to a dinner tomarrow, so I made the ordervies,. Oh it was hard, took some to the neighbors to sample.
it is just another day of hell with just a little torture on top.

Peace to you
Dually

This is my first holiday season without my Tom. He brought joy to my life and heart. Thanks so much for the prayers! And as always I will keep you and the others in prayer this season. Marilyn

Thank you for taking the time today to think of us who are in the same lonely place as you. Knowing I'm not alone in my misery is somewhat comforting although I hate that any of us has to live with this profound sorrow every day. So, today I am thankful for you and all the others at DS, especially the group leaders who are so continually supportive of others, even as they struggle through their own grieving process. Thank you all. And, I'm thankful that I am now one day closer than I was yesterday to seeing my Lord and my husband in heaven (one more day down; and only 10,620 more to go -- if I have the misfortune of living an entire natural lifespan.). In the meantime, I pray each night for comfort for all widows and widowers on this site. Love you all bunches
Joni

Darrell and I always host Thanksgiving dinner. I had to do everything last year alone, since Darrell was not doing too well even then. Guess it was a dress-rehearsal for this year.

I was doing okay until it came to our traditional "each person tells the others for what he/she is thankful." My daughter tried to by-pass it this year by suggesting saying grace, but my 5-year-old granddaughter insisted on the tradition. So it started - thankful for family, health, etc. Then, it came to my son-in-law, who was very close to Darrell and whom I had asked to sit in Darrell's chair, this year, at the head of the table. He said, "I'm thankful for having Darrell in my life." I lost it! Only for a few seconds, though. That was my only breakdown, until now.

Thinking about all the people here who are trying so bravely to make it through the holidays as only half a person...breaks my already-broken heart. Just seems too cruel.

Mostly, I find that, if I think positively, positive things happen. Sometimes, however, the sad stuff creeps in and tears follow. It's all a part of my new life - and, for the most part, life is good.

May you each find peace in the quiet of your own thoughts...

Hugs,

Terry

Thanksgiving and christmas the two biggest and most joyful holidays remain tough for many. Some are 1st timers, some have been through the holiday sadness before. We remember the way it used to be and we long for what we had. It is a tough time most would agree. I always think that Robert would cook the entire meal for thanksgiving and Christmas even being disabled and battling lung cancer. He loved to cook. And he cooked gourmet style!! Now my older son has taken up where his dad has left off and has been making the thanksgiving and Christmas dinners. Him and his wife together. They can make a terrific feast the two of them. They want to continue the family tradition which is nice and we are blessed to all be together. We must remember to take baby steps and one day at a time. in time things will look brighter.

The holiday season does seem to intensify the sadness. This is my 3rd without my husband---I found DS last year after Christmas and have met many friends through this site. Last June, 34 of us met together in Vegas and found instant connections.We just identified with each other---a knowing, an understanding, a supportive ear and in turn being a supportive listener. Being here and on Facebook has helped me in my grieving and growing and healing---probably more than anything else I've done. There is something healing about being with people who understand.
With understanding and hugs,
Sallie

My christmas wish is to be allowed to not do it and say bah humbug...

DS ws a lifesaver for me the first couple of years...haven't been on too much this year...agree with your sentiments though..........I included a set of blue lights on the tree this year...........praying for us all.............Lori