I love what you told your grandson...Peggy

I don't see a end to this either. Its just living day by day to me. Not much to look forward to just another day. It really does stink!

I know how hard it is when you go to a wedding or have new grand babies and he can't be there with you. I think we grow numb after while and it just starts slipping. Maybe its just my memory going away. Sometimes I wonder if he was ever here its been so long now. (3 yrs) I keep hoping for something new to happen but I don't hold much hope.
I'm still crying also.

Been almost five years. There's no end in sight. This is hell on earth.

Of course I know what you are saying, but I also know there comes a time when you DO accept your new reality and find peace therein. That too will pass, when you are all reunited ((HUGS))

im new here. What I can say is everyone seemed to be a bit older when experiencing this. I just lost my wife she was 34 and im 30. Id love to just get 5 more years. it all sucks but I wish I had just a bit more time.

I hope you are feeling better today, that your crying was a good releasing cry. Sometimes we need those.

I wouldn't worry too much about the grandbabies. I only knew one of my grandparents and then only briefly, and it made no real difference in my life. My sons were born after my Dad died, and they lost the rest of their grandparents before they were out of school. Didn't make that much difference. They know about their grandfathers from stories we have told them, so that they understand their history. It's pretty recent that men started living long enough to be active grandfathers. Keep telling the stories to the kids and the grandkids and he will live on in their hearts.

Things will get better and they will get easier. Time alone does not heal a thing. As you grow stronger and more confident on your own, it will become easier to integrate the loss into your life experiences. When that happens, it becomes easier to see it as part of your life rather than the only defining thing in it. You will get to that point; don't give up.

Love and Big Hugs,
Martha

MY husband was my Grandaughters father figure It was especially hard on her....its been 4 years at age 16 she still sometimes crys and wishes he was her...she went everywhere with him, helped him build things such as 4 horse shelters, she was called his 3 dog as she followed after our two dogs.....

BUT they adjust and memories we carry and talk about...

I have been having the same trouble with my grandchildren. My husband passed away in May and was only 49 years old. He was very active with the grandbabies and the two oldest grandchildren have both told me multiple times that they want Papa to come back from heaven now. My heart breaks into when I hear this.

Our first grandchild arrived 6 days after my husband's death. It is just heartbreaking that they just missed each other. I am so sad for my little grandson as he doesn't have a grandfather on the other side either. I cherish that little boy though, he is wired up just like his Pop Pop. High energy all day every day. I know my husband is smiling looking down at our little tornado.

I think grief changes with time. Yes, it returns but not with the vengeance it had in the beginning. I wish there was an end but I'm grateful that it has changed.