What wise and wonderfully positive words, (((debbie)))! It's something that I really needed to hear this morning. Thank you so much! Hugs

You are right, Debbie. That old saying is a favorite of mine: "The past is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift --- that's why we call it the present." All we can do is our best for each day we are given. I have faith that God is in charge of my todays and the future. This doesn't mean they will all be wonderful -- just that He will be with me whatever happens.
Doye

During my recovery, I was often and now occasionally plagued with the "what ifs". My minister gave me good advice, "If it feels wrong, it is wrong". In the past my mind was so muddled and full of fear of how I was going to go on. Now if a fear is bothering me or a "what if", I sit and think it out. If not, I put the fear on one side of a piece of paper and the true facts on the other side. It helps.

Ahh, Debbie...that is my mantra. I don't go too far into the future as I need to get through today first.
Thanks and hugs, Sharry

Hi Debbie,
Your so right, I remember when my sweet daughter came back from Iraq and her husband was not there and he had left her for a co worker, I told her mama, do not dwell on him, he was not what God had in mind for you. He was a stepping stone to the one you are supposed to be with. He may of been someone she needed to know and love to be able to be ready to understand and love the one God had planned for her.
She was young and did not understand but I told her to make two lists of bad and good of him. She did and her bad was longer than the good. I told her to focus on this list when she missed him.
She did, it helped her to love again the right man that she is now with, he also is airman and they just had their second child who I am so glad to be visiting now.
I told her not to focus on the past but to focus on her day she was on and not worry what tomorrow would bring, because what ever it was, it was in Gods plan and all she had to do was have faith.
Each day, is a gift from God and all we have to do is thank Him and believe it because in His plan we will be with our loved ones again.

Good words Debbie. I also like ''if it feels wrong....'' I don't know about you, but usually if I go with my first reaction to things, it's usually right. I love the ''Live for today '' theory - helps a great deal. Otherwise it's just too much to handle - ya know???

Best regards,
Vicki

Oh shoot jerseydebbie that was me I know I have said it many times -

You gave me food for thought and good ones too. I think I need to print those words out and put on my refrigerator....

Thanks from my humble self....

Oh shoot jerseydebbie that was me I know I have said it many times -

You gave me food for thought and good ones too. I think I need to print those words out and put on my refrigerator....

Thanks from my humble self....

Oh shoot jerseydebbie that was me I know I have said it many times -

You gave me food for thought and good ones too. I think I need to print those words out and put on my refrigerator....

Thanks from my humble self....

Good post, Debbie! I still am not able to think of forever. It's just one breath, one step, one minute, one hour, one day at a time. I am now able to smile, laugh, sing, dance in the moment, and I am able to cry in the moment.

There is a saying that goes something like this: The cup that you drink your joy from, you also drink your sorrow. It means that as much as we are able to experience one, we are able to experience the opposite.

Some people go about their lives kind of middle road. I am just the opposite, I have peaks and valleys all over the place. I have experienced the highest highs (joy that I was sure was more heaven than earth), and therefore I have felt the lowest lows.

Some day I plan on being able to think of forever again, but for now...two years and 9 months after losing my Denny...I am happy still putting one foot in front of the other and taking one step at a time.

Lots of hugs sent your way...
-Diana

that's a great way to look to life.

Truth is that we DON'T know what tomorrow brings, so living for today, is THE WHOLE LIFE!!! Day by day, and hopefully giving something to smile about with each of them.

diane

Your humble opinion is shared by me...............

I need to learn to live by these words. All that is my mind is how long is this damn life gonna last. I need to learn to enjoy the day I am in, but still feel lost and hating it.
Things started to go wrong in this house now, leaking sinks, toilets, and outside work to be done....no money...but I have to think of the future and find a way to fix it. It doesnt "feel right" to keep this house..so that means I should sell it, right? I have had it on my mind for months now.

Debbie, you are absolutely right! the here and now is the only thing that matters. We don't know what tomorrow will bring, so why waste your time speculating -- a very simple concept but one that is very difficult for most people to grasp. I once heard Frank Sinatra say in an interview that the best advice someone once gave him was, "Live everyday as if it's your last, because some day it will be" -- Another saying I love is "Don't worry be happy". Hugs! Connie

Debbie,you are so right. My preacher just spoke of this very thing last Sunday. He said we spend too much time fretting over tomorrow or next week, month, etc. We are not promised another minute in this life. We all just need to focus on the here and now and let God take care of the rest. Barbara