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Happy New Year to all. I have been at my girls house for a few days and brought the new year in with them and their very young, partying friends. I longed for Joe to take me home and let me sleep quietly with him like we always did after midnight.
A very strange thing happned there. A young man came up to me, a friend of my daughters. He said that he was able to act as a medium and he said that a man was nudging him all night to talk to me. (granted this kid was drunk so I was ignorng him at first). He kept asking me if I knew a man in a chair? No clue, was thinking my dad or Joe.
He said that his man had a very foul mouth (language)..that would have been joe. I had not idea why this kid was playing with my emotions.
He said that this man wanted to hug me and say he loved me. He went on to tell me that this man said I have been asking over and over for a sign that he is with me and he was nudging him with his "big belly" to come to me and let me know.
I was really scared but then he said that I needed to be open to it and that the man kept telling this man to touch my face like he always did to prove that it was him comign to me. Joe always ran his finger down the side of my face to say how soft it was and how beautiful I was. I started to cry as much as I wanted to believe him, but didnt knwo what to think.
My daughter got mad at her friend and walked out of her own apartment. Everyone was coming in one at a time telling this kid to stop but he kept telling them to step out and I was fine. Then I said I need to go to my daughter because she was upset over this. He said that Joe was stepping away because I wanted a sign from him and I didnt want to listen to him and was goign to my kids instead...This is something Joe would have said. He would have been nuts that I wasnt listening to him! I stayed to hear the rest.
He told me that he knew I was angry at him for not getting his paperwork in order (the will) and that I should not worry about his boys not talking to me. He said that his boys did nto really love him anyway, they always listend to his ex wife instead (true) and that he over gave them things and spoiled them to compensate for the divorce (very true).
Then he said not to listen to the b-tch (his ex) or worry about her and to get the money that his owed to me from them. He said he was helping to heal me from where he was since the doctors say they cannot. This kid touched my lower stomach and said that Joe said I needed to go and get checked and he would heal what is wrong?
He said that Joe said he fell in love with me when I was in the "grass" and he looked at me there? We were always upstate and got married in the grass under a tree.
After all of this and him saying that Joe said he will always love me and he is fine where he is now, the kid spoke to me about my future.
He said that I have a huge heart (true) and that I will fall in love again with another man who is separated and getting divorced (no way!) and then he tore me apart when he said that Joe never really loved me and I "knew' that in my heart. I have always questioned Joes love in the years before we were married. He was always looking for other women to talk to and we had many arguments over it.
I have been so sick over all of this and could not sleep for days. Was Joe really sending me these messages? They were right on spot and it scared me. But worst of all, is it true that Joe never really loved me?
What was this new years eve thing that happened just ten minutes before midnight? I am feeling so horrible now...Ann
A very strange thing happned there. A young man came up to me, a friend of my daughters. He said that he was able to act as a medium and he said that a man was nudging him all night to talk to me. (granted this kid was drunk so I was ignorng him at first). He kept asking me if I knew a man in a chair? No clue, was thinking my dad or Joe.
He said that his man had a very foul mouth (language)..that would have been joe. I had not idea why this kid was playing with my emotions.
He said that this man wanted to hug me and say he loved me. He went on to tell me that this man said I have been asking over and over for a sign that he is with me and he was nudging him with his "big belly" to come to me and let me know.
I was really scared but then he said that I needed to be open to it and that the man kept telling this man to touch my face like he always did to prove that it was him comign to me. Joe always ran his finger down the side of my face to say how soft it was and how beautiful I was. I started to cry as much as I wanted to believe him, but didnt knwo what to think.
My daughter got mad at her friend and walked out of her own apartment. Everyone was coming in one at a time telling this kid to stop but he kept telling them to step out and I was fine. Then I said I need to go to my daughter because she was upset over this. He said that Joe was stepping away because I wanted a sign from him and I didnt want to listen to him and was goign to my kids instead...This is something Joe would have said. He would have been nuts that I wasnt listening to him! I stayed to hear the rest.
He told me that he knew I was angry at him for not getting his paperwork in order (the will) and that I should not worry about his boys not talking to me. He said that his boys did nto really love him anyway, they always listend to his ex wife instead (true) and that he over gave them things and spoiled them to compensate for the divorce (very true).
Then he said not to listen to the b-tch (his ex) or worry about her and to get the money that his owed to me from them. He said he was helping to heal me from where he was since the doctors say they cannot. This kid touched my lower stomach and said that Joe said I needed to go and get checked and he would heal what is wrong?
He said that Joe said he fell in love with me when I was in the "grass" and he looked at me there? We were always upstate and got married in the grass under a tree.
After all of this and him saying that Joe said he will always love me and he is fine where he is now, the kid spoke to me about my future.
He said that I have a huge heart (true) and that I will fall in love again with another man who is separated and getting divorced (no way!) and then he tore me apart when he said that Joe never really loved me and I "knew' that in my heart. I have always questioned Joes love in the years before we were married. He was always looking for other women to talk to and we had many arguments over it.
I have been so sick over all of this and could not sleep for days. Was Joe really sending me these messages? They were right on spot and it scared me. But worst of all, is it true that Joe never really loved me?
What was this new years eve thing that happened just ten minutes before midnight? I am feeling so horrible now...Ann
If it rings true, I'd say it is. Never would I believe a demon would come to us with words and gestures from someone we LOVE and/or someone who LOVES us. Love and evil just don't meet.
Thank you so much for you confidence and kind words to me. I remember always telling Joe that if I ever left this earth I would haunt him forever and he would laugh like crazy. He had such a sarcastic, hardy laugh that it made me laugh with him. He always said he was not going anywhere cause "only the good die young!" Well, Joe, even with his foul mouth and strong beliefs was a puppy dog. He was the most lovable person in the world. I am finding people every single day who adored him totally and they tell me stories about how they met him.
I once told him that if he went before me that he better get his "a-- up and find me to let me know he was ok" and again he laughed.
I think he found me....only according to this young man...his a-- was still sitting in the big computer chair that he loved so so much and he was in his favorite worn out faded black jeans. (the same jeans the paramedics cut off him after the accident). He called me after he fell and the only thing he was upset about was that they cut his favorite jeans! Those jeans are still in the trunk of my daughters car in a hospital bag!
I got another sign that was incredible today. Years ago I gave Joe and angel in a heart shaped glass. He put it in his jeans pocket and never left without it anywhere. I kept telling him it was too big and would bother him, but he never let it go. The angel was gone and I could not find it anywhere in those pants. It must have fallen out at the accident sight. Well, I got a beautiful basket of candy from cousins two days ago. There was an envelope inside that said "worry angel" in it. It said this angel would take away all my worries. I opened the envelope and it was the same angel I gave Joe!!! Yes it was new and not banged up like his was...but I have been searching for that angel of his all this time and here comes one delivered in the mail to me. I feel so blessed by God and Joe and I love him more every second~~