Hi Pagirl,
I'm so sorry to hear of your husbands death. No one is ever prepared or ready to deal with the death of their spouse. At least here we understand how devastating the loss of our loved ones is, and we know we are not alone. Other members will have advice, better than mine. It does get "easier" with the passing of time. I say easier but that's not exactly right. The emotional breakdowns occur less frequently, but they are never ever far from our thoughts. I lost my wife of 26+ years over 8 months ago in a car accident. I still need to find out who I am now and what my life will look like without her. I haven't made too much headway in that area. There aren't too many minutes of the day I don't think of her. At least I still have our dog for company. I think sometimes that she's just gone away for a visit to one of her friends, or start to look for her to share some news. I was out of work for three month's due to injuries I got from the car accident. At least that gave me time to being processing what had happened, what was I going to do, what was my purpose now, where am I headed. Anyway, I'm here to listen...
Kevin

Thanks Kevin.I know there is no cookie cutter for dealing with the grief.I'm sorry for the loss of your wife.I think whether death is unexpected like your wife and my husband or death to a long illness it's tough.I know what you mean by thinking your wife is just away.My husband spent many months in hospitals and facilities and it just feels like he's there and will be coming home soon.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
At 3 months, you are still in the initial impact of your loss.
This is a good place, for you to vent, listen, and get insights on the devastating journey. Remember there is hope.

Take care....hugs from Sandra

We, here, understand and thank you for sharing. Hugs.

Thanks so much.It's so nice to see there are others out there understand what I'm going through. (((Hugs)))

Just try and do something you enjoy...my days are limited to this but i discovered i enjoyed driving...with my disco music cranked,

My husband had health issues too, but he always overcame them and our life continued. When he was diagnosed with end stage lung cancer I couldn't comprehend that he would not survive. 10 weeks later he was gone. Sometimes you still seems impossible this has happened. Sharon

I'm sorry for your loss Sharon.I just feel so lost.We had so many dreams of things we were going to do and places we were going to go.I never in a million years would have thought I would be a widow at 52. I know cancer is so difficult for all involved.Watching a loved one suffer is just too much.I hope you can find some peace. (((Hugs)))

Pagirl - I too am sorry for the loss of your husband. I am new here just as you are, but I want to encourage you to continue posting and reading. My wife went to be with the Lord three weeks ago, also unexpected. She was 53, and it was on our 29th anniversary. I relate to your feelings of bewilderment, and I miss my wife immensely. I have been surrounding myself with friends and trying to stay active. I don't always feel like it, and I imagine I am terrible company right now, but I have good friends that are willing to let me vent, and are always lifting me up in prayer. I have found good guidance and understanding of the grief from this forum. Everyone here appear to have a similar loss and it helps to know that you are not alone in your grief. I hope you have good family and friends to help you through this time; I know that has been a great resource for me. I don't really have advice, but I just want to encourage you to keep plugging in here and keep posting...it really does help. Also, I am going to a support group for people grieving the loss of a loved one on Tuesday. I am hoping it will help. I am curious to hear anyone's experience with support groups.

I am so very sorry for your loss! It's been almost 16 months since my husband passed and it still seems so unreal! Please come here often, the people here are wonderful and supportive. I could have never made it this far without them. Hugs and Love, Michele

You are right Michele everyone here is so nice and genuinely seem to care.It is very helpful to have people that know what you're going through.We all have our own stories and memories our our lost loves.I lost my mom 1 month before I lost my husband.They were both so dear to me.Thank you for your kind words.I am also sorry for the loss of your husband.Hang in there. (((Hugs))) Carol

I am so sorry for your loss, but this really is a great place to come. At three months I was still in a fog only doing what I absolutely had to do. It's been 15 months, and I can say that life is easier. Take your time, moment by moment, be good to you. Hugs and blessings. Katrina