I had to make that decision 6 weeks ago. If this helps, i had to think of my husbands pain and suffering and not me and the kids. I sat next to his bed in icu, after they already had to recuss him e times, spoke to him how much i love him and will love him forever, how proud i was of him for fighting so hard and that we will be ok in time. If he wanted to he could go, 30 seconds later he was gone and my heart with him. I still second guess myself, what if we went back to hospital earlier, what if we kept him on machines, but no, he was so tired and in constant pain. Strength and prayers from me to you

My wife made her journey
to heaven at 6:31 am pt
I am struggling right now
and probably will be in the future but in my heart I know this is. what she would want
No more respirator no more tubes all over her body no more pain. God has a new angel to care for.
She will now live forever through me
I have to remember not
remember how she died
But how she lived

So sorry for your loss. Welcome to our group. We are all here for you.

Sylvia

Steve, I am so sorry for your loss. Oh yes, she is at peace and pain free. You gave her the most precious gift of your unselfish love. It's very, very hard to do. Keep your friends and family around you. There will be days when you want privacy and that's ok. Be kind and gentle to yourself and allow yourself to heal. It helps to read up on grieving and to share your feelings here too. We are here for you. Big hug to you. God bless you.

Hello Totallyafraid,
I have no real legitimacy to speak to what you are experiencing, as I have never faced it. But I hope I can offer some encouragement.
I am a 75-year-old Christian, and I love and I bank on the Truth that I believe: That eternity is forever; that heaven is the only thing that makes reasonable sense as the next step for our challenging existence here on earth; and that Jesus Christ has given us the bridge to our entry into heaven.
We can't earn it. We don't merit it. But God loves us and showed it in creating us. He wants us to be with Him.
Finality of physical death doesn't make sense after seeing the miracles of life that we have seen and experienced. Our lives are not understandable as some sort of materialistic anomaly or random occurrence that just comes and goes in the short term of our earthly life span. We are God's created miracles, and we don't just fade away, but are designed to soar on to a place in which we were created...a glorious place of freedom and relationship to God where we see Him fully.
God is a loving and merciful God, and if we will accept the gift of Jesus' sacrifice and resurrection as the effective price and sign that He paid for our sins, and claim Him as Savior, we will rejoice in heaven.
He knows it all, and it is with love for every one of us that He wants us to know He knows. The Bible tells us all about this. He knows that we suffer at times like this. That's why He was willing to pay such an uncalculable price as His Son's life to save us and show us His power to save. He does not want us to despair. We will ultimately have our Full Future in eternity. It can look and feel horrible on this side, but that's not the end of the story for us.
All of this comes down to my suggestion of help: pray for guidance. This situation is too big for any person to handle alone. This situation is really not your choice, but God's. He created her and loves her even more than you do. She is in His safe hands. Ask God to give you His will, and trust Him.

I am so sorry you are going through this, my heart goes out your family

I as everyone else here knows what your feeling at this moment. I'm so sorry Steve. One moment at a time from here on out my friend. Thats how we get through this. Huge bear hug to you.