Hi Mrs. TK.
I lost my spouse of 41 years last May and I struggle every day....but the grief IS softening and so will yours. Seeing the blessings he left behind , rather than the darkness. Death does not end a relationship and the love you shared is deathless and eternal. there is no timetable for grief; whatever arises, just embrace it. Be gentle with yourself. Daily journaling is very healing. It does get better.
Blessings.

Hi Mrs TK. I am so sorry for your loss and hope that this group helps a little bit. I have been a widow for five months and I think the pain is a little bit less now, but it is still there, of course.

Sylvia

Take each challenge as it comes, one day @ a time
The new year begins, I just bought a toilet seat that is needed in the main bath...so it goes!!!
It has become easier because it's been 3 years learning, adjusting to the responsibilities that are mine now.

In reading, would like to pass this on to you:
"Grief never ends, but it changes
It's a passage, not a place to stay
Grief is not a sign of weakness nor a lack of faith
It's the price of love"
jdp

I'm somewhat with you. I'm 36. My husband died in an unexpected car accident while working. We have three children still at home, but are middle school and high school. I'm having a hard time asking for help although so many people have asked. I just don't really know what I need till suddenly I need it. I'm working on trying to embrace the help
Offered. I try often to slow down and to remember one day at a time. One moment at a time. I often pause out of sight from the kids and cry. Your amazing and your doing the best you can. Hugs

I am so sorry for your loss. I am 39 days now without my husband and five children to raise so I understand a bit. I too feel that fear of overtaxing my friends, and that urge to isolate myself but I can already see the importance of not doing that. And my friends keep reassuring me of their love and support and willingness to be here. Still, I know it is going to be a rough time from here forward with trying to figure it all out and do it all, to some degree, on my own, even with the support of lovely friends and family. Hugs and my thoughts are with you.

Mrs. TK, I am so very sorry for your loss. I am 39 years old and have two daughters. I had never been on my own. I lived with my parents until the day I married my husband. My husband was 7 years older than me and took care of pretty much everything. He did the finances; he did the cooking and driving; he talked to people when there was a problem; it was rare for me to even make a decision without consulting him first. He left me unexpectedly the morning of September 1 of a heart aneurysm. It's odd having to sort of grow up at near 40 years old. Days are pretty much like roller coasters, I have good days and bad days, good moments and bad moments. But the Lord has always given me strength when I need it. And it comes in different forms every time. I take each moment one at a time. I take each task one at a time. And I don't do it alone. I ask friends and family for help when I need to- and there are just times when I have to. The Lord has blessed me with such wonderful people in my life. Right now I am struggling with not having my companion. I feel so alone even though I have so many people around me. I talk to them, but I guess since I am not getting his reaction- that communication has not been satisfied within me. I don't really know why I feel so alone. I am trying to learn to give it all up to the Lord. We will get through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Big hugs.

For me, finding the group was a lifeline for support and understanding. I have friends who supported me, but I found they couldn't understand what I was going through. This is so much more than losing a person. It is the loss of your plans and your every day life is different. My heart breaks for your children and you. My children were adults when their dad died. It was hard for them, but......
Welcome to the group, hope to hear from you again. Sharon

Welcome. So sorry for your loss. I can only imagine what you are going through. My wife and didn't have any kids.. So I'm not the one to give advice.It's hard enough to lose your soulmate, but having the responsibility of raising three kids I'm sure is overwhelming at times. You did the right thing by joining this group. There are wonderful people here who are here for you at anytime. Sending prayers, love and hugs your way. Stay strong

I am grateful to have seen your message to be able to share understanding. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband too, in a plane crash. Sending you healing thoughts.