So sorry for you loss. You have come to the right place. We all have been where you are and know how it feels. I am at the 9th month mark of losing my husband. Some of the feelings will never go away. We will always love and miss them. However, as time passes the gut-wrenching pain and hurt will diminish. I would never have believed that nine months ago. The best thing that you can do, is go with the grief and feel the feelings and cry as much as you need. In addition to this wonderful group, there are other grief groups that you can actually attend and hear other peoples stories and feelings. Without the support, I don't know if I could have made it this far.

This group is wonderful. You can say anything and no one will judge, as we all have been there. Everyone has kind words to say and a lot of helpful information.

I'm sorry that you had to become a part of this group, but I'm glad that you found it.

Prayers and blessings on this grief journey you are beginning.

Hugs,
Norma

I too lost my wife in Oct to cancer after 21 years of marriage. Time will "eventually" dissipate the anguish but right now often seems worse than the days right after. There is some comfort in numbers - knowing others are or have experienced the suffocating finality that losing a spouse causes. Lots of miles to cover on this rough road but having others in here for the journey has been huge. Utilize the numbness periods to regroup & get things done. Vent your meltdowns in here.

I am so sorry you are joining us on this journey. You have found a wonderful, supportive and loving bunch of people who all get what you are going thru. I lost my husband on May 19th. The pain and the numbness were overwhelming. I just did not know how I was going to carry on without him. However, the numbness is subsiding and I have more good days than bad!! You will feel like you are on a roller coaster ride of emotions. Come here often to help you get thru it all. Sue

I always hate to have to say "welcome" to anyone joining our group and grief journey. I'm so sorry for your recent loss. We didn't chose this, but here we are . . . a family of somewhat shattered and scattered folks sharing the journey with you. I'm at nine months, and it does get somewhat easier with time. The old cliche "time heals" won't seem like words of comfort right now, for there really aren't true words to express the comfort you need. Just know that we are here for you, will be here for you . . reach out as often as you need to. Be gentle with self, without expectations of today, let alone tomorrow. One moment and breath at a time. My sincerest condolences. Big hug, Dayna

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I echo what the others have said, you've come to the right place. We understand, and we'll try to help.

Hugs,
Janie

So very sorry for the loss of your precious wife to cancer. My husband passed in March also from cancer. This group has been a source of great support and kinship. I also joined a local support group and it helps to share and know we are not alone. I wish you much comfort at this difficult time.

vg, I'm sorry for the loss of your wife. The overwhelming feelings that you're going through of NEVER seeing her again seems like too much to bear. I know.

I lost my Morey almost 21 months ago and sometimes it feels like this morning and other times it feels like 21 years ago. I knew him since I was 18 years old. He was my "everything!"

I miss him so much that it hurts. I don't know if we will ever stop longing for their touch, smell, embrace......I just don't know how we're supposed to get past it all. Maybe we're not.......maybe we put them inside ourselves and bring them out when we need them and then put them away when we're done! Maybe for a moment, maybe for an hour or a day!

They're NEVER really gone from us......just put away!

We're "HERE" for you.

With Love,
Roz

I too am sorry for your loss. I understand as do we all. I lost my wife of 40 years to cancer as well. 6 months from diagnosis to her passing.

Come here often, vent when you need to and take care of yourself. It's more important than you know right now.

Take care, Jeff

Cancer is the suckiest, if it were really a word. If it and I were the only ones left in the room, I would be the last one standing. It has taken way to much from me already. My Aunt, my grandmother, my mother-in-law, my husband, my friend.....and I know that I am not the only one.

Be kind to yourself. One moment at a time is all you can expect. I can tell you were an awesome support to your wife.

I am knew to this site, but it IS helping already. Please reach out when you need us.

I am so sorry for your loss....
I am thankful we are ALL, here to support you through this unbearable time.
Love, peace and hope
Sandra

So sorry we have to welcome you to this group-a group that none of us ever wanted to join. I lost my husband of 38 years this past September. This site is a good place to come for support .

There are days when I don't think I can take another step and feel I have no purpose without him. I come here nearly everyday. You will find words of encouragement and find the feelings you may be having are all normal in this grief journey.

Take care of yourself. Get rest and don't forget to eat.
Terri

Welcome to DS where we all are in the same boat. I hope you feel better soon and being on DS is a big help. It is said here, not by me, that time will help us recover. My loss is too recent to know relief yet. Let's help each other get through this. Chris

I'm very sorry vg2015, wow 46 years. My emotions have been sometimes crushing, and very painful. I don't know how they will be for you but they seem mainly beyond my control. I get a lot of good ideas and help from these posts.

So sorry for your loss.
Cancer took my August 21 2013.
32 years for us.
You will find much needed support on this site. Support that if hard to find anyplace else. This is truely a safe place.
Martin

Sorry for the reason you joined this group, but it is an amazing source
of comfort to me still and I am almost at 5 years. I got through the first many months by playing computer solitaire every night until I got out. It may have taken a few minutes or a number of hours, but for that period of time, it gave me something else to dwell on.
One day at a time my friend.
Hugs,
Wendy