I hope you have a good lawyer- i think you need to ask cause you might not be able to sell since his ex is the excuator of his estate- these people seem like they would not agree to sell - in that case i would not pay another mortage payment. i hope you get better but check that out before you put the little entergy you have into something that will not produce a positive outcome hugs to you

Dear Annie, I pray for strength and peace for you as you deal with so much right now. I, too, have had some extra burdens to deal with financially with some people who are making it more difficult than it needs to be. I constantly pray for the Lord's guidance on these matters and try to give it all to Him each day. I try not to judge these people harshly as they will be judged one day by our maker and His word says that you take care of widows, you do not bring harm to them. Their judgement will come justly so to them when their time comes. I have dealt with the inner ear problem as well and it is worse when I don't get enough sleep. These words are easier said than done but please, try to rest and take care of yourself first. I send a big hug and many, many prayers for you - Gail

Hi Annie,

Keeping you in thoughts and prayers. I am so very sorry.

Hugs,

Shar

Annie,

oh dear, more added on the sorrow...that IS hard to bear.

Just a couple of thoughts," take what you can use and leave the rest":

>>>in Hawaii where we lived for 3 years you could have SOME facilities but not necessarily all...why can there not be an extra bathroom in the house?

>>>Sleep is pretty much non-negotiable after a little...will your doc prescribe meds for a while?

>>>I have found a few things to be helpful: deep breathing, yoga and water aerobics......also I am much better when I am around friends who I am comfortable with and who I know care about and like me......


I am just so sorry you have all this more to deal with on top of the terrible grief....

hugs....

Annie,
My heart goes out to you. So much to deal with. No wonder you are feeling so overwhelmed. A dear friend gave me good advice that I think will help you. Remember to breathe. Just breathe slow long deep breaths and take tiny steps moving forward. Some days all you'll be able to do is breathe. Others you will be able to move forward ever so slightly. We are all here with you to listen and to understand. I'm saying a prayer that you have peace and comfort.
Hugs,
Vicki

Just pray. That's all you can do. What we're going through is one of the hardest things to survive. Then life kicks you in the butt making it even harder. It's like the forces know that we don't have our support system--our spouses anymore.

There are those who will disagree about what I'm about to say, but I'll say it anyway: We're in a battle against the devil. It's spiritual warfare. And the only way to survive is to put on the full armor of God. That's what we must do to survive. Our enemy--the devil--is here to kill and steal. He's already killed, so the rest is to destroy us. He'll do it by constantly attacking us. He'll do it until we have nervous breakdowns and scream for mercy, then he'll keep going.

That's why we've got to depend on God. In church I was told to bind the sprits in the name of Jesus. When I'm under attack, I say, "Satan, you're bound in the name of Jesus. You can't touch my life, my health, my house,, my car. You have no power over me, in the Name of Jesus."

I know there are those who will say I'm crazy. I don't care. Everyone is entitled to think what they like. This is what I do and it works. Does it mean that I have a perfect life? Far from it. I'm under constant attack. But I'm winning because I'm a team player and the team that I'm on is headed by the Almighty.

Tru

Annie,

I know the pain you are experiencing right now. I have had to deal with many issues with my wife who passed away 2 years ago and now my daughter who is disabled. I get anxiety attacks and have had many of them and take xanax which helps me very much. If you believe you have had a breakdown and that's what your doctor says, you should be in a hospital where they can help you. I wish you better happiness in the future. Sometimes you have to hit bottom before you can start to rise. When I lost my wife I felt like someone had taken half of me also. I am still having a lot of problems in dealing with her loss. Hope your other legal problems can be dealt with in a timely manner. Good luck.

Rick

Annie, what an ugly mess..I wonder HOW your tenant arrangement came to light to the authorities!!!! Don't break down, get angry it is a far more stimulating emotion. I hope you have a lawyer to protect your interests and if it comes down to having to sell and move think of it as something for YOU to do as a part of your renewal. The ex and his children sound cold and heartless. What a shame on them to put you through this grief along with the grief you are suffering in loss. I wish I was closer..perhaps there is a DS friend who is, that can offer you some in person support. If not then know you can vent your heart out here. getting things off your chest and written down does help you sort through your feelings and relieve the pressure.
I hope you work through this with a good outcome...
Hugs Linda

Yes I will pray for you. Your beloved Joe is with you looking out for you. I know you miss him dearly and life seems so unbelievably pointless without him but he may be looking over hoping everything will come together for you.

You have a lot more to contend with than most. When I am finding it really really hard to continue and the house is an absolute mess and I just lie on the lounge or in bed just praying my loved one will return I try and encourage myself by saying that I am going to do something for him. Like if I look at the dirty dishes stacking up and I have no emotional energy to even get off the couch, let alone do something constructive, I say to myself I am doing it for my partner as he would hate the mess. It is the only way I can do anything. I am doing it for him. I cannot let go of him. I hope this helps.

I think the hardest thing is we have lost our support base, our rock, our love, our half. I feel I would give a body part to have my darling back. We were a same sex couple and my partners family rejected him because of it. I too have a similar situation. We only had each other. He was the first person that showed confidence in me and gave me the strength to live. Now I have lost him, I have no one to fall back on or give me support. I was never good enough in my family's eyes but to my partner he thought I was wonderful. I had one person who thought this of me and he is now gone.

Bless you and I hope you can keep going. Send me a message if you ever need a cyber shoulder to cry on.