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scottito
scottito

My dementia seems to be getting worse. Using my cellphone has become increasingly difficult for me. For example, I couldn't get signed into my cell phone because of one-time code the bank kept sending me which I couldn't enter in time to sign into my account. Fortunately, a nice teller at my  bank figured it out, registered the phone and stopped that extra one-time code. I am so glad that problem is now solved. But I'm telling you, my mind was scrambled big time.


Stupid stuff like that sets my brain spinning with my thoughts just turning to mush. I was told by the neurologist shortly after my open-heart surgery that, without running some tests, she was pretty sure I had post-heart lung machine dementia. And it wasn't going to get any better. I guess a 5 bypass open heart surgery is complex and takes time. And I am grateful that I'm still here. 


I try not to worked up over stupid life sh*t because thoughts spinning and scrambling in my head is not a fun place for me to be. Thank God I can still write :-) This group was my life-line for several years after my wife died 10 years ago.  Thanks so much.

lovesloons
lovesloons
God bless u Sir, stay strong.
scottito
scottito
Thank you Lovesloons for your blessing. Today is a better day for me. The old saying, One day at a time, is all I can do. Long story but I do have 2 great friends (a brother and sister) who keep me grounded. We reconnected through our mutual love of camping. Not sure I have much camping left in me, certainly not by myself as I did for many years. In 1980 I chose my law school based on its potential for good camping nearby, so I moved out here to Washington state from Missouri. Something about camping in the mountains that has always refreshed my soul. My dog Blue (a Red Healer) is now 10 and sadly she is now showing her age, as am I. She is and has been a loyal and true companion!
lovesloons
lovesloons
I hear you, camped for many years in the Adirondack Mts of New York, still do once in awhile. The call of the Loons in Adirondack lakes stirs my spirit, just wonderful to hear them call to one another at night, magical. Keep going my friend, and bless your dog Blue, faithful companion.
bonusjack
bonusjack
Sad that you are having to deal with dementia on top of everything else. Do you check your blood oxygen regularly, to be sure you are staying above 95%SpO2? As I get older and less active, mine has started to decline, and I notice that it impacts cognitive mental functions.
shelda
shelda
Thats horrible! I am so sorry to hear about this, Hoping you can cope with it all. Try and take it easy and take care of yourself
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