Hi, Joann ...
I can identify with your post. Although Sam and I didn't watch the same show you & Larry did, there are still shows ... songs, places, even foods ... that trigger a flood of tears for me. I miss Sam every day. But we keep on putting one foot in front of the other, don't we? It's a huge comfort knowing that others are on this journey with us.

Wishing you peace ...

I felt the same way tonight watching Survivor. It was one of our favorite shows. We enjoyed discussing who would be kicked off. And I haven't been able to watch a Ohio State football game yet. That was his favorite team. It's too painful at the moment. I'm finding out that it is the little everyday things I miss the most. I miss our normal life, but I have my memories and he will always be a part of me.

There are shows we use to watch together that I still can not watch . Recently Skyfall was on t.v. and just the thought of it sent me and our daughter in a meltdown as he was addicted to James Bond movies.
Those moments , they serve a purpose. Crying releases toxins in the body but also helps us to remember. There were times during our marriage that our Love was piut to the test and doubt would creep in, those moments have help me release the guilt and know that the love was very much real and very much strong.

I'm sorry Joann. It can b so lonely. The last several months of Iras time here on earth, he was home a lot and became a junkie to Criminal minds! I swear if he would have survived he would have been the best forensics expert ever! Then the last night in the hospital as I was leaving, I asked him if he wanted me to stay. He said "no I'll be fine. I'm just going to watch Counting Cars, it'll be on all night." That was the last time I saw him alive. Now when I pass by that show on tv I can barely get past the channel fast enough. Baby steps I guess. Right?
Love to you.
Darcie

I feel the same way. There are many shows that we watched together that I can't bring myself to even look to see when they're on. We used to watch "Chicago Fire" and "Chicago PD" every day. Those are shows I will never watch again because at some point there will be the one that hits too close to home. (Joe was in a collision due to someone crossing the centre line on the highway.)

But then, TV is holding little interest for me these days. I find when I watch, I watch a lot of cooking shows. They seem "safe".

I too understand the feeling when a show our loves watched comes on. I can't watch them, I still can't listen to music. I can't eat his favorite foods. I can't even watch the news chanel we used to watch. With time maybe, with time! Hugs and Love, Michele

Bob and I got addicted to HGTV in the hospital. It was one of the few clean channels that we felt comfortable watching. I have the opposite response that you have, I have HGTV on almost exclusively!! I watch it sometimes, other times it is just noise in the background. I also leave it on all day when I work, so the dogs can watch it!!

For me, I found myself unable to watch any TV the first 2 weeks after Juani died. So I canceled cable 4 months ago and been in a quiet house since. Juanita always had to have the TV on for background noise, and when she was sick and couch-ridden, if she wasn't praying or reading her bible, she was watching TV. So I've seen every episode of the Waltons and Little House on the Prairie more times than I can count. I walk past some DVD of those programs for sale. When I'm ready, I'll buy them and watch with fond memories. But not nearly ready for that yet. We also loved Andy Griffith show, and have the complete collection on DVD. Haven't been able to watch it once yet. And I've been warned to stay away from the Hallmark channel! Makes me wonder if I'll ever get TV again? ~ God bless you all ~ Scott

oh Joann I can totally relate. Every show that my husband and I watched together tugs at my heart and tears start to flow. Just a simple life moment that now brings us such pain... It is a comfort to know we are all going through the same emotions and can be here to support each other. Much peace,

Larry and i watched so little tv together. Very different taste. He loved those big blockbuster movies and i loved the quiet ones. I do miss us sitting and reading together. It is quite difficult for me to finish a book these days. Not sure if it is concentration or that it seemed a shared activity in our house. Crying is such a good release! Hugs Patti

I still can't watch any of our favorite TV shows. I really can't watch much on TV. At first I could at least watch the cooking shows, but now nothing interests me. I turn the news shows on at night turned down low and listen as I just veg.....but you can only take so much of Donald Trump and the Pope! I hope I can get my concentration back before winter, or I'm going to have some long evenings!!

I was also able to read again for awhile, but I'm not able to do that right now. As Michele says, with time............

Love to all,
Linda

There are some things I still can't watch - just too painful. The early months I stopped watching all broadcast tv - I watched DVDs instead. My sons and I would go to the library everyweek to get a new batch. I have watched more documentaries than I ever knew existed. I have also seen every action-adventure movie and WWII movie as those don't have much in the way of love stories. I had to avoid any kind of love story - my heart was too broken to enjoy any love stories! I introduced my sons to old tv shows like "Star Trek" and "Gunsmoke," and we watched slapstick comedies with the Marx Brothers and the Three Stooges. I avoided all the news on tv, too. I read the paper or got my news online. The tv news is always homicides and disasters, and I just couldn't cope with one more devastated widow getting the microphone shoved in her tearful face so some idiot newsperson could put her hurt on the news. I hate that....

Hang in there, Joann. It does get easier, maybe not as easy as we'd like, but easier.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

Oh Joann
I know how you feel. When you spend over 30 years with one person like we have they are such a big part of every aspect of your life both big and small it is so hard to do anything or talk about anything that they were not a part of and it is so hard to know they will not be a part of these thing again. There will always be those silly things that were our silly things that we loved to share together. We have to believe that these memories will someday bring us happiness or contentment like they did when we shared them.
Hugs to you. My thoughts are with you,
Kathy

Brian and I always watched Survivor, I could not even turn the tv on after he died for weeks. He had to have it on as soon as he walked in the house. The OSU Buckeyes I can do this year, last year it was tough. We always had something special to eat while watching the Buckeyes game. It gets better, you probably don't believe it right now. But it will.

Im so sorry but I really do understand how you feel. Its those little things that we miss more than anything. I too miss everything

Hugs to you

Lisa