What I miss- his voice his hair his profile his walk his hands his face his cooking his warmth his calls his laugh his singing his skating his passion his strength his listening his understanding his bravery his honesty his faithfulness his love. I miss it all.

I miss that silly smile when he had done something special or wrong. I miss him just sitting watching television, which I disliked because I prefer to read and he insisted I needed to watch this great show. I miss him playing with the dog and his laugh. I miss the phone calls just to see how we were. I miss him taking the car for service and making sure that his family was safe. I could go on and on.

What I don't miss is his telling me what I should do or not do. Nothing made me do something more than being told I can't or shouldn't.

I have few complaints about him. Sure we had disagreements, but I always knew that I was loved and secure in his arms. Sharon

I miss his hugs the most. They made me feel so safe and happy and loved all at once. I even miss the things that used to bug me about him.

my wife's smile, laugh and voice..So so much..her smile made my heart flutter, even after 24 years together..her laugh was infectious and her voice was super sexy to me.

her kindness to me, no matter what..often i would come home, and find she had bought me some special snack, or had made a special dinner because if we had talked earlier and she knew i was having a bad day, she wanted to make it better..

her presence..we could be doing our own thing in different rooms..and talk to each other..i'd listen for her across the hall from me, her in her beading/crafting room, me in my office at my computer..2 days ago, my brain played an evil trick on me..i could have sworn i heard her across the hall, clearing her throat..that made for a good cry..

her silliness.."taco night" i think she loved, just so she could come hand me a slice of cheddar cheese, giggling the whole time so she could tell me she just 'cut the cheese' ; she also would dance around when certain songs came on..

I will not miss - checking on her only to find she had not eaten all day and had a blood sugar so low she was about to pass out (diabetes is so fun)

-the suffering with breathing/dialysis she endured..she hated it

-her not calling or texting me back in a timely fashion..Melodie was terrible about checking in if she had to go any distance to a medical appointment or travelling across the state to see her grandmother for example. I always worried when she did, because her health was so fragile. Sadly i still have the last texts on my phone from the day she passed where i was asking her over and over why she was not answering... Although technically i miss the hell out of getting a text or call from her right about now..

It is funny my wife was very strong willed and I often thought her stubborness was the thing I wished was different. And then I watched that strong will carry her through a brutal 6 month battle with cancer with such dignity and faith and that is the thing I now miss and admire the most. That strong will in so many ways was the foundation of our marriage and family life. The list of what I miss is so long I cant even begin to start.

I miss his presence. Just the fact that he's not sitting here with me makes my heart hurt.

I miss him playing his guitar, having dinner ready and kids settled. I miss him listening to what me and the kids had to say. I miss his physical presence.

What I do not miss is his friends that would hang out on weekends when there was work to be done. I do not miss having a dead deer strung up in my yard from a hunting trip. I do not miss the practical jokes at my expense....but I do miss HIM.

Maggie

I miss his smiles, him holding me close, his hugs, his kisses, his security he gave me, his love for animals and kids, his love for nature, his cooking, his love for me, his love for my parents and our nephew, his care he gave me when i was in pain or sick. etc

What i dont miss is seeing him in pain and suffering after his car accidnet and struggling to relearn everythign due to his brain injurys, his anger over being paralized, or his diabetes taking over.

I miss his crazy dance too!! He was a wild thing on the dance floor and made people laugh. So, I miss his sense of humor, his touch, his kiss, his saying see you in the morning every night before we fell asleep, cuddling and just being with me. But seriously, I now realize how much he helped me with putting out the garbage, getting drinking water, making the ice, helping me with the laundry, making the bed, helping with shopping, driving and doing the dishes after I cooked dinner. Yes, he spoiled me!!! What a wonderful, wonderful man. It sure is different without him and I wish I appreciated all he did more while he was here. Sue

What I miss - reading in bed while he watched tv, his grilled chicken, having him call me with his phone to the radio when an old song I never liked came on, the way he would just take care of things, the two of us just doing nothing together.

What I don't miss - his driving over the past couple of years - it was not dangerous but was getting a bit dicey! However, I wish I hadn't given him such a bad time about it.

I miss hanging out with him. Not necessarily doing anything. Just knowing he was around. His cooking. Realizing now just how much he took care of -and I always thought I did it all! His smile. His positive attitude. His genuine love of life and family.

What I won't miss. His dirty laundry hanging in the closet instead of in the hamper. But honestly, I'd put up with that in a second if it meant having him back again.

Liz

I miss him - all of him...

after a lonely cold weekend, thought of some more things i miss

~ calling/texting my wife in the morning, just to say "I love you" and getting/hearing the same message back from her

~randomly shopping for little things to get for her that i know she would like..i keep seeing things all the time i want to get her..

~having someone just to talk too..about anything..or nothing..someone to sit with and watch meaningless tv, or someone to surprise with an impromptu "lets go get lunch and then a movie"

~ her smell..My wife always wore perfume..she always smelled great..i had spritzed a little on my shirt over the past few weeks, to make it smell like i'd gotten a hug, but not recently, its just too painful (cuz i miss her hugs too) ; and now its starting to fade from her clothes..


i better stop it now..just depressing myself..