I'm so sorry. There are many decisions to make. You will make them as you feel up it.
I can promise you will always remember his voice. it's been nine years and my husband's voice is still very much in my memory.
Wishing you peace as you work through this sad time. Hugs, Dolores

Every opportunity I had to keep my husband's voice, I did. In fact I bought a hand held recorder, a Sony with the small cassette. I recorded his voice onto it.You don't have to erase it if you don't want to or aren't ready to do it. And it does feel like doing it will erase more of him.! I get it! It really does feel that way. You are NOT irrational.
I want to try to copy my videos of him onto a disk. If I can't figure out how to do it, hoping I will with a new computer,I will upload to U-Tube so it'll be there and I can always watch and hear him. The videos are of him riding/training quarter horses.
It's been just over one year since he passed away. I still can't believe it sometimes. Like he's away and will be back.....after one year I am still very devastated. And I so miss hearing his voice talking to me.
Take care.

I erased husbands phone msgs to free up space on phone. did not know he would die suddenly. it broke my heart to have lost his voice msgs and to me :-(

Thanks to Facebook videos I have several videos of my Johnny and his voice. I love and treasure them. I can't always go there and see them just yet else I'm bombarded with the sadness of his loss all over again, but I'm glad I know that they are there. It gives me comfort. Hugs and prayers

It has been three months for me since my husband passed and I still have lots of things with his name and I am not changing anything now.
I don't have his voice anywhere and I wish I did but it would probably make me sad. Just take your time and do what you want as you want to. There is not certain way to grieve I have found that out. I am still grieving and will for a long time. I am better and not crying every day but the simplest thing like a song can bring on the tears. GOD be with you and I will pray for you. You are not alone.

I wish I had my husband's voice on anything. Unfortunately I had deleted all his voicemails to me off my cell phone. My daughter did take a short video of him shortly before he died, but I don't think any of us are able to watch it yet. But I can still hear his beautiful voice. I wouldn't be in a big hurry to erase it. Hugs and Love, Michele

ssdad, you can take a recorder and or your phone and record the message from your home voicemail - so that you will have it forever, then you can change what others are hearing.

That is what I did, because it it upset my children when they called and got the voicemail to hear thier mothers voice, not that they didn't want to, it was just hard for them to hear it.

I also kept alot of the voicemails she left me right before she passed, so I can hear her voice antime I want.

I have saved ALL that I could of my husband's voice on the voice recorder of my cell phone, which is then backed up on the cloud. I never want to lose it or forget the sound of his sweet voice. I have a video of him from 2 years ago on Thanksgiving also! So glad to have these precious memories...if I only knew...of course, I would have made more! Wishing all of you comfort and peace.

I totally understand what you're all saying. I loved my husband's voice; deep, soft and loving. Only after he got sick did it all change and it's been 2 1/2 years since he passed and I am trying desperately to wipe-out the images and the sounds of his last few months,

It never ceases to amaze me how we humans can hold on to things. I still can't look at our scrapbooks filled with his pictures [of when he was sound and well.] Animals, especially dogs are so much smarter than we are. They live in the moment and know how to forget and forgive.

ssdad, your journey is in the very early stages, I can't promise that it will get any easier because at times, I have found that it gets harder and then easer only to get more difficult again.

Do what you can to make it as easy as you can for yourself.

Warmly,
Roz

Thank you, everyone. For the last day or so I start to erase the message, but then can't. I think I will record it somewhere, but later.

It's true that it seems easier some parts of some days and then for no apparent reason it gets really hard. I think I just try not to think about it, sometimes because it's too big and unimaginable. Surreal, unreal, and heart-hurting.

You don't have to erase anything before you decide to. I kept my husband's message for a long time, until the time was right for me. Sharon

My dad passed away 4 months ago, and my mom still has the same greeting on her answering machine. It's my dad's voice. She refuses to change it. Honestly, I think it's a good idea for her to keep it. Not only do I love hearing my dad's voice when I call and she doesn't answer, but it also appears to unknown callers that a male lives in the house. It doesn't give away the fact that she's a widow all alone.
My husband died 5 months ago, and I kept the only voicemail message that was on my phone when he died. I used an app to record it. I think holding onto their voices is so important. It means more to me than a picture to be able to hear his voice again.

I just find great comfort now in hearing my husband's voice. I still have his messages on my cell phone and have recorded with a special app so all saved. I know in my heart that his voice will always remain with me. Just close your eyes and you will hear his voice in your thoughts.
You can download the app from the Apple Store...
do everything in your own time. Much peace...