I consulted a medium and really liked the experience. It all seemed relevant and I felt at peace. I guess it all depends on what the medium says. I do not discount it all.

This topic comes up periodically and it's really a personal decision. Some find a comfort in having a reading and others are totally against it thinking of them as frauds. I don't think you have to worry about going to talk to one if you would like to. Since you mentioned that you are concerned about your faith perhaps you would feel better about it if you prayed about it. Sharon

I had issues with going because of my faith. I went to the most prominent one in my city. It was a real hit and miss experience as far as guess's on her part. I felt so emotionally raw and unsettled after the experience I was sorry I went. That was my experience. It is a personal decision. (when your grieving it is so easy for someone to play you because you so desperately want to be connected with the person who passed). I do believe with all my heart if a spirit wants to contact you they dont need a middleman.

Thanks you all for your responses. I am going to pray more and just see if he will be more vivid to me in a dream.

Funny this should come up. My daughter and I are going to see Theresa Patuka (The Long Island Medium, on her tour, Oct 11th. I also don't know how I feel about this. I don't really believe in mediums, but I thought I would go and judge how I feel after seeing her. I doubt seriously that she will approach me, but I thought at the least it might be entertaining. I am one that would have to have it proven to me beyond a shadow of a doubt before I would believe it. I know there are some people who really have a gift, but I am sure they are few and far between. I will let you know what I think after I see her. I am a real skeptic.

Cliff comes to me regularly in my dreams. In the early days, I was desperate for those visits and explanations, and like you wanted answers and affirmations from him. They didn't happen overnight. It took time, and healing, before he became a regular dream visitor. I have had every kind of dream possible about him, from the sublime to the ridiculous, from the erotic to the mundane. I dreamt of visiting him in the House of the Dead (?) several times. Some dreams were strange, some were comforting, some were just funny.

I will spare everyone all of my negative thoughts about mediums (Sharon is sighing with relief!), but just wanted to say that I don't think my husband would have wanted me to see one.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

Wow. Please let me know how it goes! He comes to me often in dreams but we don't really talk it's not the dreams I want but they do calm me. Like you said it is going to take time and I do believe I will have to be more comfortable before he will really show himself to me.

I tried a medium once... but had to exchange for a large.

I see it as a rare gift, but I think those that have it are more private not looking for fame and wealth. My thought is if it is a gift it should be used to help others for the sake of helping.

Years ago when we did the annual Trail of Tears an elderly man who lived in the area would always show up. He looked a bit ratty at first glance but was such a wonderful person, always invited into everyone's campsite for food, drink and conversation. It was known he used to be an authority on handwriting analysis and was well known in his profession. He always offered to "profile" anyone before he would leave. I enjoyed the entertainment but was not interested when pointed out but caved in to pressure and you know the "old man" pegged me exactly.

I have known of three "fortune tellers" as they were called in my world and one I think was a scammer, one I think had a degree of the gift, and the old man...I think he had it but chose not to use it for fame and fortune. Yes, I know anyone can learn handwriting analysis but he told things I don't understand how he could know from writing a jumble of words that made no sentence or sense.

I'm quirky and know this, I believe in a lot of peculiar things and even though I believe I am also very skeptical...could be the trust issues I posses, lol. Anyway, thanks for letting me babble a bit. If you choose to see one just be careful you don't get taken in because we are all very vulnerable in our grief. Much Love and Many Hugs-Jewley

My grandmother and mother were gifted in knowing things before they were going to happen. I have some of it also, but not to the extent that the two of them did. My grandmom and Mom were Christians, with a firm belief in God, as I am too. Based on that bit of history, I believe that this insight is a gift. Maybe we need a small opening into the other world because we are only human and often question God's existence or heaven. Now, if you use your gift for evil, that's another story.

My sister and I saw the LI Medium live; however we were not one of her chosen. There is a local one that I have become friends with. She helped me to reach that level of peace because I had so many questions with no answers, and I was angry. Angry because he died, angry because of the stupid crap that come out of the mouths of others. I actually have been able to converse with my husband through her, and yes I believe, as I have always believed. How could someone say things that only YOU know? I don't see that as being a fraud.

I saw many mediums during my early grief. Only one was a fraud and I knew it by the time I left. These mediums gave me hope that my husband was still alive. I needed to hear what they had to say. One lady in particular and the last one I saw was the most accurate. I haven't seen a medium for over three years and I don't know that I ever will again. I know now that he is at peace and waiting for me and that's all I really wanted to know. I am moving on with my life knowing that.

I am with Gerald on this one - you do not need a go-between. Sometimes information "comes" to you and you feel compelled to tell the person for whom the message is intended. I remember getting a message for a stranger in a restaurant once, and very reluctant I went over to her table and took her hand and when I spoke to her she burst into tears - her husband had passed from suicide only days before, and that night she had decided to follow suite. Well to shorten a long story, she did not, thanks be.Her husband's action had been explained to her, with encouragement for her to continue until her task was done. Our people certainly do live on - wish I could offer more than my word on that! They are complete and whole and happy, no matter what took them. They do look out for us, and will be there to meet us when our last sunrise comes. Nothing to fear, but the most important thing we are to do is to give all the love that we have to all whom we meet. We will never be asked what car we drove or what we left in the bank - rather did you love one another? Might sound a bit cheesy, but it is the great truth .

I admit I'm curious about mediums and I do believe some have a gift. But I too see little signs and feel touches, and stuff like that. Just this morning I got into my car and started it and my iphone started playing static and all of a sudden started playing this -https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2sN05AMV9gY How do you mend a broken heart by the BG's. My phone has a bluetooth connection to my radio in the car, but it wasn't set to that the last time I used it. I didn't even have this song in my library. It started playing from the itunes radio. I have been having some ups and downs because it is getting close to the 2nd year anniversary. I have seen lots of music related things like this. I know she is there waiting on me too.....

I agree with the thought that if our loved one wants to give us a message they will find a way, they won't need a medium. Since my husband passed away a few months ago I have had a few things happen that only he could have done. Brandon may be sending you messages but you're not recognizing them as such, I'm sure you will hear from him.

If your a Christian the Bible says we are not to consult with mediums.