When you love someone, you don't stop loving them just because they are not here any more. In fact, I love my husband even more now. I heard all these wonderful things about him I didn't even know. I just was plain proud.

Maybe over time as people move on with their lives, they just phrase their love in the past tense, not meaning that they have stop loving their love one. I don't think you ever stop loving the person you lost.

You will always love our husband. That's a good thing.

I think the same. I always use the present tense. I ask the Lord every time I think of it to tell John that I love him. It is a good thing that our God is patient. I ask Him often.

Yes, I love my husband, always will.

I began loving Jim almost from the first moment we met. I love him now and I will always love him. Not cancer, not death, nothing will ever stop my love for him.

Frank is in my very heart and soul,l will love him till l die,love doesn,t just go away because they are not there.
take care
Alice

I think the love we shared shapes what we are now and becomes as much a part of us as the physical parts of our bodies. We could no more put that love aside than we could survive without a vital organ. Perhaps people eventually start using the past tense simply because eventually that love stops evolving in the same way it did when we physically shared our lives and experiences and becomes an intrinsic part of what we are that affects but is not changed by what we will become. It's just a thought as I am still very much stuck in the stage of trying to come to terms with not having my love physically in my life and can't ever imagine that love being in the past.

I have a plaque by my husbands stone,it reads "Loved you yesterday, love you still, always have and always will. True love never dies. I still love all he was and all he is. Forever and a day.

It is definitely present tense. In fact, I have said that I really feel that I love him more now than the day he died. Just like the song by Brad Paisley "I Thought I Loved You Then," I still feel this way with Dan. Of course, the whole 28 years wasn't mushy, lovey-dovey stuff, but the love was always there, always growing, and continues to do so.

Because the physical body is not with us does not mean we forget or stop loving the spirit of our spouse. For so long I felt that I was 'married' after Don had passed. In some ways, I will always be his wife in my heart. There is nothing wrong with that. It does not mean that you are 'hanging on to the past' nor does it mean you are hindering your life alone. It is simply an acknowledgment of love that will never die. Sharon

I also use the present tense....we always said I love you always and forever............someone told me that our lives were like books.......NOrm had his book,I had mine.......and we became one......our book is not over because he no longer is on earth.......I carry him into the remainder of my book until we meet again...........
I thnk you are definately right.....

I am only in my 30's but I will never stop loving Ruth and honouring her memory.

I know that she is waiting quietly somewhere for me to come to her.

I still love all the people I have lost over the years. I still love my grandpa followed by my dad followed by his parents followed by my grandma and then followed by my husband.

When I think loved as in past tense I think former boyfriends or girlfriends I no longer keep up with and whom no longer keep up with me. I think of things I used to like or love doing that I no longer do, but as for the love I have for people who mean very much to me, These people left behind a part of themselves with me that will never go away until I die and then, even then I will have the honor and blessing of seeing them again in heaven so I say love. Now that does not mean that I talk about them in the present tense as if they are still here with me because I have moved on and if that is your concern or you think it might be their concern don't worry about it. I am sure the very fact that someone may have made you selfcounsciouse about it is the very reason you have nothing to worry about in terms of it apply to you. Someone who does that usually doesn't know they are doing it.

I love my husband more than ever. I didn't fully appreciate him and realize more all the time how very special he was.

Like I use to tell Rob all the time, "I love you always and forever".
Hug, Donna

These are all wonderful thoughts! I feel the same way. I also still refer to my husband, Brian, in the present tense. He'll always be my soul mate and best friend no matter how much time passes.
I still consider myself being married to him. I'll always be his wife, and he'll always be my husband. That will never change.