Mnlost I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband to cancer on August 12. I hope you find some peace by coming here to this board.

Thanks for the note...I've never hated anything in my life...I HATE CANCER...I HATE IT!!!!!

I'm sorry for your loss

My heart goes out to you. You have come to the right place; we all understand your agony. Keep posting, and you will find the support that you need. I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers. Roxanne

So sorry for mentioning a daughter in my reply since I am still trying to manuever this "new" site. I read your posting and another one who had mentioned a daughter and mixed up my reply. I want you to know that I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers. Roxanne

mnlost, I'm so sorry. You will find friends here who will help to ease your pain. We've all been through a loss. When you 're up to it , you might find comfort by going to a bereavement group. Take care of yourself. Wishing you peace and strength. Dolores

mnlost - I lost my wife two years ago 7/31. I am so sorry for your loss. If you can't walk into her closet, then don't. You don't need to follow anyone's timeline. Crying? I hear ya. My advice? Let it flow. Dude I so wish I was there to hug you. It hurts. I know it does. Very much so.

Truthfully I think it was almost a year before I cleaned out her closet and her dresser. I'm not saying this to make you feel bad (there's never a good time). I'm telling you to take the time that YOU need. Do what works for you. For me I did almost nothing (opened closet, stared at closet, closed closet). Then I finally hit the point where I had to do it all in one or two days.

Before I ramble some more (sorry), just take the time you need. It's incredibly personal (some quick, a lot not so much). If this place helps you (I hope it does - it really helped me) please, please come back. Ask. Vent. Say whatever you want. Ask whatever you want. We are here. We are connected.

Wishing you peace and love as much as you can grasp and as much as you need.

JR

Hi...So sorry for your loss.
Everyone here shares a common thread of the loss of their beloved and can relate to what your feeling...Read their stories and see how far some have come from their beginning stages of grief.
Come to vent or reach out when you need someone and you will find some comfort to help you make it through a day at a time. There is nothing harder than losing the love of your life but be kind to yourself and let yourself cry, scream, get angry and grieve and just let it all out. You will find the strength you need to make it through one baby step at a time in your own time.....I hope you find peace and comfort tonight in knowing others care and relate to what your feeling......Stay safe and take care

Hi mnlost I'm Tim,
I lost my wife unexpectantly last August of 2015. I left for work that morning and returned around five hours later and she had gone. She went in her sleep. No warning no indication at all. It has been a year and I will tell you that it will get better after time. It is hell to begin with but over time the intense pain will dull and you will learn to live with what's happened. It isn't something to get over but you learn how to live with it. You can't think about the next day at this point. Don't even attempt to look into the future, at this point it's empty this early on. Just take it a day at a time. I remember that black hole and just how deep it can get. It's important not to let yourself sink into it. Just reach out to others who've been there. It truly helps in the beginning to interact with those who have been where you are. It lets you know your not alone with this pain. But also don't let anyone else tell you to move on or you need to get over it by a certain time. We all move forward at our own pace as an individual. But I promise it will get better if you hang in there. Just do what you need for you. Take care of yourself right now and that's enough to worry about.
Peace, Tim

Sorry to hear you've joined the group, it's not one most ever expect to join. Widower feels so empty, and it doesn't seem like there is any model for how to deal with any of it.
Take care and be easy on yourself, tomorrow works for what can't be done today. I try to do something bit by bit, but still leave much as it was. Different for all, but we all hurt more than bystanders can realize.
Best wishes to you, let it out when you need to and give something you enjoy or enjoyed together a chance whenever possible, hard as it seems. Even an hour of forgetfulness can be a blessing at times, hope you find more of them in the future.

I'm so sorry your wife has passed away. There is no right or wrong way. Take one moment at a time. Everything your feeling is completely normal. My husband passed away March of 2015. I still have sad days. Your not alone. We are all here for you. Much lover and hugs carla

Welcome to the best support group i have found. My husband passed in March and i sill have not touched his closet/clothes. My advise is just get through the day (or hour) right now. The rest will come in time when your ready. Just dont force yourself to do something because some else thinks its time or a good idea. You have the right to tell people no, do what you can when you can.
hugs,
laurie

i lost my husband June 8th, 2016. every time i think about going thought his stuff i cry. it's only been 3 months so guess it have to wait a while.

sorry four loss.

Sorry that you're hurting so much. My husband died in February and I have no intention of going through his closet. Maybe I'll go through it someday - maybe I never will. I don't really need the space so I'm not worried about it.

I have this vision of her last breath and when she lost all her color. I see it over and over again, all day long. It was the single worst moment of my life. Sometimes I feel guilty, like I didn't do enough or say I loved her enough and when I did she couldn't hear me. It's so sad, I'm so sad.