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TimLovesMelissa 07/04/2010

Feeling a little depressed today, and I'm getting teary eyed very easily. It's overcast and raining, so that probably does not help.

I came across a couple of cards this morning my wife gave me for our anniversary, and for Valentines day. She wrote on the anniversary card that she will always love me. The Valentines card was a hand made card in the shape of a heart. She wrote on it that she will love me forever.

I going to hold her to that!

I know that I will love her forever. I'm looking so forward to being with her again. What scares me is how long that might take. I could live for another 30 to 50 years. It is just too overwhelming to think that it will take that long. This is one of those things where I have to just think about getting by day by day.

TimLovesMelissa 07/05/2010

MarineWidow, that is great! Melissa also wrote little things like that I my cards. She always let me know that she thought I was handsome and sexy. I'm a tall, kinda skinny, bald guy so I always thought she was out of her mind. But she really believed it. I could feel it. That is a major thing I miss about her now.

deleted_user 07/05/2010

Tim,
I've been feeling blue the last few days, too. Like others said, must be the holiday and the plans we made...

Here's a crazy thing that I find myself doing lately. When I'm at the cemetery and I see a stone with both husband and wife, I calculate how many years one had to live without the other. Three years, eleven years , twenty...one has 43 years from one death to the other. And I think to myself, I'll never make 3 years, 20 years, 43 years... So many times I wish I was with him now.
I go to bereavement on Tuesday. I sure hope it helps.

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