~HUGS~ to you Tim, I think days of what should be celebration make us all a little blue.....

Donale

Love and hugs to you Tim. I'm feeling a little sad today myself.
I look forward to the day when I'm reunited with my husband also. The time until then seems so long. I try to remember to take it one day at a time. Our loved ones are there waiting for us, forever how long it takes.
Take care....Nancy

hour by hour or minute by minute.........but don't give up. Hugs to you Pat

Days that used to be the most special are the hardest, especially so early on. Some days we can put on a false face and go out the door and that is the face that the world sees. On special days like today, when the rest of the world is celebrating and seems to be going on like nothing horrible happened, we know that our lives (the ones that we loved) are over because the very person that made it all so right is now gone. We are crushed and just cannot pretend that we are okay on these days. We are not! Life will never be the same again.

I have to say that I could not think about forever for a very very very long time. I now have lived through so many ups and downs and arounds and arounds and to hell and back again so many times and cried so many tears, I was sure that I would never see the sun shine again.

But some how, some way, little by little, and one step at a time, color reappears in the world. The sun once again does shine. It is not the same as before, but you will again one day see the sun shine and feel joy again.

While it is all so unbearable and the wound so very raw, please just trust that it will some day be bearable. I know that you feel like your life is over, but it is not.

Hang in there. Take it one day at a time, one breath at a time.

Though right now you feel so very alone....you are not alone. You have come to the right place. I know we all are just virtual people on a computer screen, but we are all real people surviving the unsurvable too.

Sending you lots and lots of hugs from Vermont.
-Diana

Hi Tim, You're right take it day by day and like I always called it keep walking. It's a sad time and I'm sorry for your loss. I wish I could tell you how to feel better, but it's trial and error. Love and Hugs, Sharon

Hi Tim,

Rainy days and Mondays always get me down....

It's hard to read those cards, and for me, over 500 emails that I saved. The last card Mike gave me was for my birthday, and it read, "I'm really looking forward to the future with you."

Future? What future? That one really makes me sad.

Hugs to you on this down day. There will be better ones ahead. Not right away, but they will come. Keep coming here. We can keep you company in your grief.

Amy

Real love is the greatest prize that we get to keep forever!. I have to believe, for all of us, that our precious spouses are doing the same. I know it took me along time to find him so i will wait an eternity if it means I get to see him again. Hugs and peace to you.

I thought that a lot in the beginning too. I mentioned that to people that I may live another 30 yrs and people said the same thing - don't think of that - and I don't.

I was thinking the other day that it doesn't seem that long ago that my daughter was born - yet it was 16 years. Then I was thinking - if that 16 years went that fast then in another 16 years I'll be c lose to 70. Once I'm 70 I'll feel like I'm "old age" and near the end (whether I am or not) - any why that's how I was thinking. Then it didn't seem so long. There's not much we can do be deal with it the best we can - which I suppose means maybe not thinking about it.

i can relate to how you feel been 4 months since i lost my husband he commiited sucide my younget son found him been together 36 years he was bipolar and my oldest son inhereted this also my youngest son is living with me now it's very hard but god gives us courange and strenght and he carries us i need to move one and get on with my life for my self and my boys

Tim,
I know how you're feeling - I've been feeling that way yesterday and today. And you're right - you can only take one day at a time. When Mark asked me to marry him, he wrote me a love letter and I've read it over and over so many times. He said that he wanted to be with me for the rest of his life - I had no idea that it would be such a short one. I can not imagine 20 years more without him to share it - so I can't think about it. Again, one day at a time...........that's the best that we can do right now.

Wishing you a sunny day.........and hugs.
Christine

Tim, I am so sorry for the loss of your wife, Melissa. I too look forward to the day I can be reunited with Ronnie. He passed away 11 months ago & it is still very hard. You are exactly right - getting by "day by day" is what we have to do. CHERI

HI TIM,
YOUR BEAUTIFUL MELISSA IS RIGHT THERE WITH YOU, SHE IS IN YOUR TWO SONS!
THE BEST THING ABOUT TRUE LOVE IS THAT YOU KNEW ALL HER HOPES AND DREAMS FOR YOUR CHILDREN. I KNOW YOU MISS YOUR WIFE, BUT YOU GET THE HONOR OF MAKING SURE THE "MOM" IN HER CONTINUES TO SEE THE LIGHT OF DAY.
ALL OF US ARE HERE TO HELP YOU IF WE CAN.

Hi Tim, My heart hurts for you. Gloomy days are hard, holidays are hard, etc. My husband has been gone for 3 years. Everyday is hard but oh so slowly they do begin to be a little easier. Love & hugs, Deb

Tim, I am so sorry for your loss. I'm 2 1/2 yrs. into this and I finally learned I have to take it day by day and I don't think about the future at all unless I absolutely have to. I try to just deal with each day as it comes. I was always a worrier and just couldn't do it anymore. I have always looked forward to the day I can smile at the happy memories instead of crying. After time, I can do that sometimes now. We are here for you. Take care, Sandra

Prayers for you, Tim.

I also have cards that my husband gave my. One valentine in particular stands out; the last line being about getting his hands on my butt. Under this, Todd wrote.....Hell yeah!