Dear Pam Im so sorry your husband passed away, and there is nothing I can say to make it go away, or make him come back. Like the rest of us, grief is different and unique to each of us. Be kind to yourself, we still take one step forward and two big steps backward. This is how love is, because of our losses. Just know you are not alone, and feel free to vent, curse a little, and ask questions, thats why I am doing much better than before I joined. My heart goes out to you. Much love and big hugs carla

Hi Pam, You are doing exactly what you need to do -- write us about it. You need to give release to your pain. Everyone is different, but I found for me, writing was my very best therapy. I was able to discover myself, just me without the we. It does get better in time. Oh, What did Tennessee? Same thing Arkansas! (sorry, couldn't resist) LOL ~~~ Scottie

I'm so sorry Pam, I lost my husband of 36 years on feb 6 2016 So I am right in front of you on this roller coaster ride and I hate it. Yesterday all I could do was cry :( these emotions are just awful. People keep saying it will get better so all I can do is hope and pray
If you lived closer I'd be happy to met up with you :) but thank God we got the Internet . I often wonder how people dealt with grief before the Internet ., had to be a lot worse for them. Being able to reseach grief has helped me and heck it's what got me to this site.
Take care
And I can tell you that their are some great people on here and they give great advice

So sorry for your loss, I lost my husband of 33 yrs. 04/11/16, going on 2 months now. We didn't have any kids either, my husband had a son, we are on friendly terms but not close. I have a few friends but days go by where there is nothing but silence, I do have 3 cats who are my only real physical company and at 67 yrs. old, I am retired but I still work p/t which gets me out of the house which for me I think is good, I could easily become a recluse.

I miss Vic's physical presence everyday but some days are worse than others, some days I cry other days I don't. I find the only way to get through it is to just take it one day at a time and try not to worry about how I will feel tomorrow. There is really not much anyone can say or do to make it easier, I rely on my faith in God to carry me through it each day so I try to keep my focus is on Him rather than on myself or my circumstances, in return He gives me comfort and peace. Although that doesn't take away my sadness from missing Vic so much, it does make it more bearable and I have the reassurance that although Vic's presence is gone from this earth, he is still very much alive and I will see him again in heaven where he dwells with God now. This life is short but eternity is forever, I will see Vic again and knowing that gives me comfort.

Psalm 34:18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.

Matthew 5:4 Blessed are those that mourn, for they shall be comforted.

John 16:33 I have told you these things so that you will have peace of heart and mind, Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows, but cheer up, for I have overcome the world,

Psalm 46:1 God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in times of trouble.

Pam, so totally relate to your post. I have no family nearby. My nearest sibling lives over 120 miles away, and a sister back East who is very sick most of the time. My daughter and grand children live out of state. So have to go through life now with girlfriends. I volunteer, take classes, joined a support group, but in the end I just come home to a quiet house. We are all still here for a purpose. Even your post helps me. We will get through the hard times... Much peace to you and keep posting.

It is painful and more. I am sorry for your loss and hope being with us gives you comfort and support. It's a hard road to recovery from and I questioned if I would ever be able to get through these feelings. It's a slow process, often minute by minute, taking deep breathes and learning to take care of your needs first.

Don't pressure yourself, just do what feels right every day. Crying is normal and so is napping. Go out when you feel and come home when you want. Welcome to the group no one wants to join. You are not alone. We've been through it and your with people who understand. Sharon