I say do what ever makes you feel better as long as it doesn't hurt your life. That's a good idea even though my husband hated tatoos Even down the line if you do meet someone else, they need to know what this man meant to you

I say do what will help your heart to mend. I got a tattoo in remembrance for my husband, and I love it.

Your body your choice.Do what makes you feel good. Blessings

I have thought about getting one too for my wife. My sister and mother in law got one. It seemed to comfort them. Thought also about if I would date again what would she think of a teal ribbon with my wife's name on my arm. In the end I decided not too because it would be a nice way to pay honor to my wife but at the same time I didn't want constantly look at it and remember why I got and start to feel down every time I would look at it. Well that was my two cents. If you want one. I'm all for it.

Dennis's, memory will for ever be tattooed in my heart and mine..I think about him everyday..He hated tattoos..but that said it's up too you..Do what makes you happy...;-)

Hi Sarah. Like everyone else who has responded, my answer is "It's your choice, do whatever you feel best about." However, I just want to add that a tattoo is forever. Myself, I have never had a tattoo and at 55 years old, I have to kind of think if I wanted one I would have gotten one by now. However, after my beloved husband died, I thought about getting his name tattooed on my arm. That was five months ago and I am still thinking about it. Because I have never had one and because a tattoo is permanent, I decided to wait until he is gone a year before making my decision. That way, I will be sure that it is something I really want and not something I do in the throes of grief. The fact that you are asking for advice says you are not 100% sure if you want one, so I would suggest that you wait until you are sure this is what you want.

Sylvia

P.S. Both of our sons got beautiful tattoos to honor their dad shortly after he passed and they are happy with them. However, in both cases, it was not their first tattoo.

I too had considered a tattoo and discussed it with Luise before she passed. I had designed an angel weeping on a headstone with her name and the date on it. I liked the idea, she hated it. I think it was the only time as she suffered that she got angry with me. Anyway I have to honor her wishes so no tattoo. However, your body your choice, just be sure before you commit.

thanks guys,I think I will wait for a few months then decide whether I still want to,I asked because people were telling me not to do it and I wanted to do it so I just got confused

Anyone who would have a negative reaction to a memorial tattoo on your body for someone you loved is not worth being in a relationship with. It is so messed up to even consider the feelings of hypothetical future partners when making this choice. I say go for it obviously. <3

I think the best idea is to wait a year and see how you feel about it then. Alternatively, get a tattoo of some thing that reminds you of him rather than his name. I have never had a tattoo myself for the reason that I know I would get tired of looking at the same artwork/picture/whatever in time. I also don't think I could capture in just his name or one picture all that he meant (and still means) to me. I would probably have to be tattooed head to foot with stuff to accurately represent the thousand ways I loved/love him. But that's just me....

Love and Hugs,
Martha

I've been planning mine for a while now...can't seem to make up my mind. I'm leaning towards symbols so I know what they are...to me it's something personal and I don't want everyone else to know their full meaning. For me I'm getting an infinity symbol with a heart on the wrist and a shamrock with the numbers 468 (his company number) inside the design. Its for you not others. Do what brings you comfort.

I got one on my wrist (ie very visible) 8 months after he died, almost to the date. I have had it now for 5 months and have zero regrets. I could not love it anymore and what it stands for. In fact, I felt like it helped my grief. It is a permanent reminder of him. Obviously I will never forget him or the 20 years we had, but this seemed to allow me to let go of something. I can't really explain it. Some one just asked me about it today, in fact, and asked it was in remembrance of him. I like that others know what it is about. If it a deal breaker in a future relationship, well, then, that is a good sign to me the relationship was not the right one anyway. Kate.

You follow your heart I lost my husband of 30 years suddenly and I have tattooed our wedding rings on one shoulder and our anniversary on the other I'm only 52 and may or may not ever meet someone else but if I do it would be someone that understands I loved him and nothing would ever change that and accept it as I would someone else

I was 48 when my husband passed, within a month I had the outline of an angel done inside my wrist that include a wide purple ribbon . His Birth date and the date of his passing as well as his monogram. It is about 3 inches and a bit in length and 2.5 inches in width.

In the 4 years since his passing, I have had comments made here and there about my tattoo. Mostly , people are curious and sympathetic and then there is those strangers who have an opinion about everything. And yes the comment about "what if you meet someone else?" To that I answered, if I meet someone else and he has issues with this tattoo then he won't be the right person for me... Let's face it, at our age we have baggage, the right person will also have baggage . It's with baggage we can deal with that will matter.

The only thing I wish I had done different when having my tattoo is to have his signature included...I have seen that done and love it. My husband before passing, told me that he would be my guardian angel and this tattoo is not only fitting but because I had it done on the inside of my left arm, I feel that it is connected to my heart and soul. Many times , I brought it to rest against my heart and it brought me comfort. That was for me and only me, it is what works for me and anyone else who has issues with it needs to learn to deal with that issue, I don't. It's on them, not me.

But the only way you will know if it's right for you is when you won't need to come here for advice, you will know it in your heart.