You have one of the things I truly wish I had. My wife wanted to be buried and I respected her wishes but I would have preferred to keep her ashes. You do as everyone has said what you want to do. It is your grief and your relationship. There is no right or wrong in this journey you just listen to your heart. Gerald

You are doing the right thing. The only one who knows what you and she had, and how it lasts, is you.

Wow it has been over a month since I posted this and her ashes are still in my trunk. LOL I am happy where they are and I also have a small urn in the house. and some ashes in a necklace that I don't wear anymore. It is still close by over the bed on my moms watnot shelf. I am not worried about the ashes in the car because of all the packing and her urn is solid steel.
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I remember the moment I typed this sobbing and crying. I was destrout waiting for the end of my torment. I wanted to stop feeling. I just wanted to be over it. You soon realize that you cant get over it
I have come to peace with my wifes death. I didn't and wont get over it.
I didn't think of myself as being spiritual and I wasn't expecting this but I had a very moving dream about my wife and about the after life. I think someone up their knew that I would go crazy if I wasn't given this gift. So I had a dream and I still remember every detail of it. I owe much of my healing here at daily strength and a lot of it to this dream I will never forget!
I don't cry for my wife anymore unless they are tears of joy knowing that 1 day I will be with her and she is waiting. I now look at my wifes death and death in general as a ne and better beguining with no ending.
The only time I cry is when I am around her family it gets depressing and I get mad it brings back sad facts of wrongs an misdeeds done to me and my wife before she past. When I think about how sad we were before she died, I cant write about this tonight, it just hurts and I know better so I am done. If you are curious about all the horrible shit you'll have to look at some posts from my past and you will find many of them.

ps. Thanks philnigash for bringing this back. you didn't take anything from me. It kinda makes me feel not so alone. Remember that ur feelings are original no matter how many times it is posted by others. Thanks though for honoring my post, That was nice. Almost everyday I see posts so similar to something I posted. But I post a lot because I have many issues in my life that aren't resolved. I haven't posted any really depressing things in a while. I think I am going on 2 weeks. Wish Me Luck
I wish all of you with the blessings I have received. I know joy now

That's perfectly fine! *wink*

Much smaller vials/urns are also sold ~
A couple of GF's use them to hang their DH's their rear view mirror ~

M husband and i had many discussions before he died about his ashes and he insisted he wanted his ashes either thrown in the Illinois river or a tree planted on top of them. He just could not see keeping them in an urn - use them as fertilizer he always said. He was a fisherman and hunter and loved the outdoors. So i buried them in the backyard and planted a tree on top. Because this was his wish i am peaceful.

Drew, I have my husbands ashes on the dinning room table with some pictures around his ashes. I have let people know that his ashes are going to stay with me in tell I go and meet him. When that time comes both of our ashes will be spread together. While our ashes are being spread one of our favorite songs will be playing in the background. In tell my time is up his ashes will set on the table and when I watch tv in the living room I light some candles around the urn. At this point in my life if anyone does not like it they don't have to come over. I am comfortable this way it helps me with my grieving.
Do whatever helps you with this time in life. The grieving is all about what makes you feel better.

Drew, whatever you do, don't tell people you have your dead wife in the trunk of your car - they will freak out and probably call the police! :) But seriously, yes, it is entirely up to you and you alone, but sorry dude, it does sound weird, and as an old lady - I'm old enough to be your mother anyway - it sounds disrespectful. Just being honest, don't mean to offend. It is up to you, but don't be surprised if you get comments and weird looks from people. Just sayin....

I think some of the ideas mentioned were very cool - especially the launching in space idea - wow! I have had friends here who took the urns everywhere with them. I think if you want to travel with ashes you need to have some sort of paperwork with you to prove what they are (and not drugs I guess).

I think it's great you have had a good and enlightening dream and that you are feeling better. I am glad.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

My concern with keeping the ashes in the car are possible accidents, but also car theft. Car theft being the main concern. A thief would have absolutely no respect for any item in the car. So that would be of the highest concern to me.

Scouser, that's a good point - how would you feel if the car and ashes were stolen? Yikes!

I guess your right on some parts. I will bring the ashes in but I am going purchase another necklace can hold ashes, to wrap around the rear view mirror. I guess I will get another small urn and keep it in my glove box. I know it is not her soul that is in the box, it is just what is left of the body but that body ashes or not I still hold dear to my heart. My car trunk just seemed like a place that I could keep her safe. If I ever do ride on a plane I will just bring my necklace that has some of her ashes. I am the only person that knows where my wifes ashes are, So only the people here will think I am crazy LOL! I don't feel crazy I just wanted to find a place I feel she is safe. My house has been robbed in the past so I don't feel her ashes are safe inside. I think I may hide them in the back of my closet. Again I am saying this I do not think that my wife soul is in that box, just whats left of her earthly body. It doesn't bother me to put her ashes any where I see fit. As long as I have them to cherish and can keep them safe.

I am not going to get the small urn if I get the necklace

Drew your not crazy - I think its the world thats crazy! Hugs, Jo

In the first months (maybe year) I felt comfort in my husbands ashes and having them near. I had some in a clock/urn that went to our daughter following his wishes. I had some in a necklace for me to wear and the rest were divided with an amount to our son, who scattered them, my brother-in-law who scattered them and I kept the rest. They are inconspiously displayed in my home with Artie, who I have made a new future with.

I feel there is Nothing disrespectful in whatever you are comfortable doing with his ashes including having them in the trunk of your car. Just do what gives you peace. Sharon

Good idea Drew. What ever makes you happy, only you can know. Your wife is safe in your heart, in anycase.

I get it now That is why I haven't brought her ashes in. I am afraid of someone else robbing me again and taking her ashes and throwing them away. I know what I am going to do now. I am going to keep her ashes and when I die I will be cremated as well and have my ashes mixed with hers. I will have my ashes given to my son with instructions on where to burry the urn if he doesn't have the need to hold on to them. I didn't think this mattered as much as it does to me.
Thank everyone who has posted I have decided to hide them and entrust someone with the where abouts so I can give our son the ashes and when he is ready too, He can burry then where I requested.