Nothing to be said from me, you all summed it up...

This is very comforting to read. I thought I was being a a bit of a weenie, still feeling so bad on my 2nd Christmas without Bob. (He was a trucker and even now, when I see a tractor-trailer transfer rig go by, my heart hurts. I guess I am still looking for him, in a way.)

I won't marry again. I'm 62, I'm crippled w/MS, I am not interested and nobody is interested back -- and that's just fine with me.

I have much to be thankful for, oh Lord, how things could have been much worse, were it a different time and place in our lives. I have great kids, grandkids, siblings and friends. I am still employed, in spite of my MS and am not destitute. I did not lose my home and had the freedom to make decisions about my living circumstances without being forced.

So I have had the "luxury" to mourn him properly. No anger or resentment or desperation, just grief. I love him, I miss him, I will always be "waiting" for him.

I have embraced my grief -- it is a part of who I am now. As a result, I have found that I feel a certain peace in acknowledging that to myself.

It sounds like you are of a similar frame of mind, jersey -- and we are just fine, thankyouverymuch. ;)

I haven't commented in a long time-I read a lot of posts but don't comment. This one I couldn't resist. This is my 2nd Christmas without the love of my life; jerseydebbie you hit the nail on the head with everything you said. I seem to have cried more this Christmas than last, seems like the entire family is falling apart. I have had and am still having many medical problems. I miss him so much, he was more than a husband, boyfriend, fiance-we were together since we were 20 and together 40 years. I am OK living alone with my dog; I have wonderful friends, family and church members. I know I will see him again someday it just hurts so bad. I hope 2013 will bring us all a little more peace and I hope to be a little healthier. My best to all.

Oh how I can relate to that!! I am so tired of people telling me I will get used to being alone. That I will for sure find someone else,that my loneliness will pass. There isnt a day that goes by I dont wish for my husband to be near me, or if he would just call me on the phone to reasure me that I can do this alone.

Hi Debbie,
Today is the 3rd yr. anniversary of my husband's passing. So this time of year is the hardest time of year for me. I feel so down & out that all I have been doing is crying. I lost my husband to cancer as well so I can totally understand what you are feeling. I don't think it will ever get any easier.

Sandy

Each holiday that comes around always brings about a memory that often brings a tear. The hurt will always be there. We find an inner strength that we never knew we had and manage to go on each day. We are truly blessed that God gave us the love of our husbands and the memories we have until we meet again. Big Hugs------ Wishing you health, happiness and lots of love in 2013