I am truly sorry for your loss. I don't think a week after I would have been able to focus to write a sentence on this board that would have made sense. I am so sorry. It takes lots of time and loads of support. You may need outside support as well. This time of year for those who have passed away makes it even tougher. You can get through this but it does take time. My blessing and prayers are with you.

I am so sorry for your loss. This is a journey full of ups and downs, one day your Ok and the next you just don't want to be here. I lost my husband Jesse 6 yrs ago suddenly to a Heart Attack. No time to say goodbye , no hug or kiss , no I Love you, no nothing. I can remember the first few couple of yrs when all I could do was cry. I can remember how intence the pain was in my heart. 6 yrs and I still have days when I shed tears. We had so many plans, so many things still left to do. I want nothing more than to have my husband walk through these doors here at home but I know it can't happen.
I have survived 6 yrs with the help of my Beautiful Memories, family , friends and this beautiful site where I know that I am not alone with my feelings even after 6 years. It's a hard journey, and you are just begining this journey. They say that time heals the pain, well, I believe that the pain of loseing a love one never goes away you somehow learn to cope with it. You just have to take one day at a time. Now that you have found DS you will get the comfort you need. All of us here are traveling the same road whether it be a few days or 6 years like me. There are so many wonderful people on this site that care and are here for you. Big hugs full of comfort, & love going your way.

It has been 2 yrs 5 months since my husband passed away. And yes the holidays make the loneliness one step harder its still the loneliess that bits you heart strings hardest.

All those things we had planned and it was our retirement to do things and etc etc you will think of those often at first, than I find I think of those things I now must do and want to do finally. I was never angry at people who were smiling esp. at couples I felt sad but I was angry at those who did not understand YOU can not be that smiling so soon -

It takes time and so many things to learn who you are now as that single person.....Some ups and downs but with no other choices you progress as you need to and feel you are ready to.

You will find you can be stronger than you every thought. It hurts I know but keep writing it helps here. Hugs

I feel so afaid without my husband--I am afraid to go out. How do I cope with this?

I don’t know how long your husband has been gone but I know when mine past immediately I felt that way. Like my protective shield was ripped away. He was my strong Teddy bear always looked out for me. It’s 3 and a half months the feeling is not so raw now but still there. Hugs to you.

I am so sorry for your loss I lost mine on June 12th 2016, it will be 3 years this year in June. I pray everyday for comfort and strength God has given me that. I live with my 95 year old Dad he lost 2 wives and had one divorce his 3rd ex-wife she is now in a nursing home. Me and my Dad help each other, my husband had congestive heart failure and diabetes, I miss him but I know he is at peace and happy now. God does ease the pain we still miss them but know they are in a better place now. May God comfort you and heal you. Your Friend, Lisa

I know what you are going through it has been 3 plus years for me it is hard and will be harder seeing people who are happy is tough when you are in our position no one who has not lost some one like us will understand I have had recently been with a psychopath moved her in she just used me I am now going through this hell once more keep looking after your self one day at a time I recovered some what before meeting this girl I knew she was not for me but it took the pain away it is hard to let her go even though she was a user it seemed to make it easier but now that I am alone I am going through hell once more

what you are feeling is also what I went through and am still dealing with stay strong breath take one day at a time just look after your self you will get through this I was so dependent on my wife now life is so hard to face but you have no choice you go on living time will ease the pain. You will go on even if you do not want to I am not religious but I pray every day I do not wake up and I am with my wife but I am still here been tough for me after moving in a psychopath she took me for a bad ride now I am going through some of the pain and anxiety of facing this world alone once more do not try to rush you can not this is a hard time people do not understand that the loss is never goes away even after 3 years I miss her and want to be with her i

I lost my wife one year ago and I miss her every minute of every day. It has been the most awful year of my life and I am still lost without her. So, I feel your pain. I really don't have any advice other than try to get out and talk to people.

Sorry for your loss and broken heart. We have all been there and I wish you courage and strength to walk this path. Highs, lows, laughter, tears, emotional roller coaster, every emotion imaginable comes with the loss of our loved ones. In time it does get better, but it takes time and give yourself the gift of time to mourn. Take one day at a time, treat your mental and physical health well and never give up. You will realize just how strong you are in time, be kind to yourself. I don't know if the grief ever really leaves us, we just cope better with it in time. Just know we are all thinking and praying for you. God bless you, Jan.