I'm so sorry for your loss...I'm at nearly 6 months already, and I basically go day to day. Some days are better than others. I wish I had a better answer for you. Take care, and remember...one day at a time.

Thank you for your reply. I am so desperate to communicate with someone who really understands and your words help me to know there are others out there who are making it through this but it is so very very hard.

Our life was he and me, us. Now without him, I'm alone. I have our little dogs and a job. Both the dogs and my job remind me of how all was so connected to us. I feel like a prisoner of the grief and miss him so much. I hate being alone with no human family and our home is isolated and am trying to do things to maintain life. Just over six weeks without him and have had a couple of nice days thanks to a dear friend but return home and work and the tears and agony. I know so many that have survived this loss but each under different circumstances. I believe he is will me and watching.

Thank you for posting the poem.

I know what you mean. He was a part of me and now I am no longer whole. I have to believe he is near me or I will never get through this. I have a cat who follow me throughout the house constantly which she never did before so she misses him as well. I really think this site may help me get through this because of the kindness of people like yourself who have gone through the same thing. We will all somehow get through this together.

Saleeby, Thank you for your Beautifull Poem! I am so very sorry for your loss. Yes the grief is overwhelming, agonizing, a kick in the gut. Nothing we had ever planned on happening to us. But it did. I have no great answers, however I know I have been clinging to this site for months. Everyone here "gets" what you are going through. I still cry, I must need to or I wouldn't. Can I say it gets better? Yes! but it takes time. Those further in this journey have helped me to crawl, scratch and climb each day. I would not have made it without them. Deep breaths hon, do what you have to do and not what others think you should. This is your journey and everyone is different. Most important, take care of you first, at this point nothing else matters. Come here often for comfort, love and advice. We have members everywhere and someone is sure to respond quickly. I for one have spent a lot of time here through the night. So don't be afraid to post at night or whenever you feel the need. We will all walk, crawl, and dig ourselves out together. Hugs and Love, Michele

Dear love evergreens, I am also so very sorry for your loss. Nothing is the same, we are half of what used to be a whole. The agony of grief is overwhelming. Does it get better? Yes. But each is different and their journey's are different. Most important is you take care of you. Take a moment at a time. Do only what you are up to doing. There is no time line and no one's grief is the same as another's. Come here often, the support is amazing. We all "get it" and will walk beside you through thick and thin. Hugs and Love to you, Michele

Sorry, I meant Luvevergreens hugs, Michele

Dear Loveddogs, Thank you for your words of encouragement. I thought I was going to lose my mind today and may have if I had not found this site. I am sorry for your loss as well and am so glad I found people who "get it". That poem has given me some hope that he is near so felt the need to share it with those who are going through this as well. My hugs and love go out to all of you and I will return often so I can make it through this and maybe in some small way I can offer a little comfort to all you as well.

Saleeby and Loveddogs and WendiMac, Thank you. I know we are sharing our pain, agony and grief. I wish I would have beat senseless so I know I could recover instead of living without him. Today, for some reason I just terribly lonely and lost and glad I have a place to share my thoughts and feelings. Tears and more tears and another day and please take care. Mary

Hi Saleeby,
I want to say I'm sorry again for your loss. You are in. GOOD place.
Love and hugs.... Sandra

To all
Thank you for your support and know that you are not alone. My thoughts are with you all and we just have to remember that wherever they are our loves know how much we miss them and they are always with us in our hearts. I am sure they don't like to see our tears (my husband could never stand to see me cry) but I hope he knows these tears come from love and my happiness of being lucky enough to have him for the last 32 years. I just wish it could have been longer.

Dear Luvevergreens,
My heart goes out to you. Rest assured we on this board are your friends. We care and will support you when ever you need.
Love, peace and hugs from Sandra

Dear Saleeby and Luvevergreens, I am so glad you joined us. Just as you will learn from others, we too will learn from you. We all want to focus on the wisdom and experience of those who have a longer period of grief under their belt than us to learn from their experiences - and that is a great thing and has saved my bacon a number of times. But reading both of your comments made me realize the rawness of your grief and how beyond overwhelming it is at first - something I needed to be reminded of to realize that -- gee, I've made a little progress in my 4 short months. So never ever think you have nothing to contribute or share or ask. Here, we all grieve with each other, cry with each other, sometimes even laugh with one another when we become able, and hopefully we all learn from one another. Know that you are always welcome here. God bless you and comfort each of you ~ Scott

Lost my husband at end of March. sudden. Like most of us here: still dealing with shock. came here to find others who are trying to figure out how to do this. how to get through.
We are able to give each other the empathy & real understanding, which is nowhere to be found except with those who are 'in the same boat' as us.