I thought one good thing about moving to a new town was leaving the past behind but that never really happens. I can now pick and choose who I tell I am a widow or at least I thought that. My brother was fixing up the house a week before I can. Neigbhors came over thinking he owned the place. He explained his sister was moving in, a recent widow. I am OK with them knowing, maybe they will keep an extra eye out for me. What I was not prepaired for was them asking how my husband died. My story is like many others, my husband had a drinking problem. He was diaganosed with cirrohsis of the liver last year. He stopped drinking, and started taking care of himself. A bad fall and his reluctance at going to the doctor lead to his organs closing down due to internal bleeding. In the end his bad liver led to his death as his body put too much strain on in. Yes, he died of liver failure. I don't want them to think he was a raging alcholic who drank himself to death, I am proud of the time he was sober. I also have teenagers and I don't want them to hear about their father that way.

Yesterday I had a contractor giving me a quote. Me being a recent widow came up, he immediately asked what he died of and when I told him he asked me if he drank. WTF! I lied and changed the subject. I have met people over the years and they have told me they losed a loved one, I don't think I have ever asked them why, it seems so insensitive. I am getting to the point I feel like I should just say he had a heart attack, something quick. I don't want to be mean or rude and don't feel like calling out people for not being sensitive but this is really bothering me. I guess we have all been asked stupid questions. Let me know what you have been asked, sometimes hearing others experiences makes ours not so bad.