Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I just wanted to say hello, and introduce myself. My name is Tim, and I lost my beautiful wife a little over two months ago. She was the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm 41 years old (she was only 11 days older than me, born at the same hospital no less!), and have two boys, ages 18 and 12.
This looks like a great place to share experiences, and support each other. I'll try to contribute what I can.
Over the past couple of months, my mind has been racing non stop. I think of her all the time. I believe that when we met and were married, we became one. That would explain why I have felt so terrible when she died. A piece of me died with her. One thing that just dawned on me a week ago is this; if a piece of me died with her, then a piece of her still lives with me. This has helped me a little bit. I still have a long, long, LONG way to go.
This looks like a great place to share experiences, and support each other. I'll try to contribute what I can.
Over the past couple of months, my mind has been racing non stop. I think of her all the time. I believe that when we met and were married, we became one. That would explain why I have felt so terrible when she died. A piece of me died with her. One thing that just dawned on me a week ago is this; if a piece of me died with her, then a piece of her still lives with me. This has helped me a little bit. I still have a long, long, LONG way to go.
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I find myself going places in the car and not wanting to get out of the car. I come back home and I don't want to get out of the car. I think it's the only time I spend reflecting. Chronic tiredness from Long Covid plus the immunosupressing meds for my Crohn's is slowing me down but everything just seems a massive effort. I am dealing with the paperwork following my father's death but it's not...
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Wow, it's the middle of the week already!Today is our 11 year anniversary, so we're going out to a nice dinner. I'm losing a lot of sleep these days, hence a wonky schedule and uncomfortable feelings. But I know it will pass, eventually.I hope all of you have a peaceful day, and may good things come your way!
Welcome. I'm so very sorry for the loss of your beloved wife. My mind raced for months and months after my partner's death. It has calmed a bit, but not without a lot of processing on my part.
What a beautiful insight--that part of your wife still lives in you. I hope that brings you great comfort.
Please feel free to share whatever you are going through here on this site. You will find many who are going through or have gone through similar thoughts and feelings. We are here for you!
Hugs,
Amy
I think you'll find this an outstanding group that goes out of their way to help, offer a kind shoulder and priceless advice.
Meanwhile, as a guy, don't let people tell you that you have to "be strong!"
You don't. You can feel however you want to feel. It's okay and it will get better.
Keep in touch!
Stephanie
Dave
~HUGS~
Donale
Doye