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Becvac
Becvac

I lost my husband one month ago from a Lymphoma. He was diagnosed in January 2017. Not even a full six months later and he died because his cancer was chemo resistant. I can't breathe today or stop crying. I've been okay for the last few weeks only crying here and there when thoughts or memories appear but today I woke with an overwhelming sadness and a need to see and hear him. I have some videos he took of our daughters when they were younger but he never talked much while taking them. It's heartbreaking. I can't play out wedding video because our vcr is now not working. Who sells those these days? Reading some of your posts helps me understand that what I'm feeling is normal but I don't want to be normal I just want my Jack to come home from one of his work trips and hold me again. 


vwidow
vwidow
My sister died with hodgkins (@52), an uncle as well, and my husband suffered wrong treatment and died end of Jan. 2017. I'm sorry for your pain, and real loss. Did you talk about what you would do if he died? I wish I would have discussed more of that with mine, but it's unpleasant and I didn't think he would die. I thought he was out of the woods or nearly so. He was being stalled leaving the hospital when it happened. God's help to you.
mlssoneal
mlssoneal
There are a lot of places that will transfer vhs to dvd. I am so sorry for the losses I am reading on here. Believe me you're not alone. My husband died in June just collapsed. Some days are harder than others. Prayers for you
roxanne809
roxanne809
I am so sorry that you lost your beloved husband. I am glad that you found this site because we do understand and can support you. Keep coming here; it does help to know that you are not alone. Roxanne
Deodarglow
Deodarglow
So sorry you are going through this. Thrift stores sometimes have a few old vcrs.
Msbklyn
Msbklyn
I think we can all identify with that urgency to just see or hear them. It's been 22 months for me and for a long time I could not hear his voice It was too upsetting. Last night I called his phone and heard his voice. It was comforting. Several years ago my so. Had VHS tapes made into CDs and put them on my computer. It upset me to see myself interacting with my husband as if he would be there forever. They were from 25 years ago so of course I did not know what lie ahead. Oh don't we wish we could rewind time like we can those tapes! Hang in there. It will change and it won't be as awful as it is for you right now forever. God Bless
ladybjt
ladybjt
Oh Becvac, I hear you! Everyday for the last 15 weeks all I've wanted was to hear my darling's voice and his laugh. I do have my good days, and they are coming more frequently, but then something pulls me back into overwhelming sadness. I just keep pushing myself along, sometimes one baby step at a time, to remember all the good people and things in my life. I know it will never be how it was, but I need to make my "new normal" the best that I can make it. You are still very new to this. Keep coming here and sharing. It really does help. Take care. Hugs! Betty
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