As long as you are truly content with your choosen path...
We are all just here trying to help people possibly find a path by suggestions and experience. A friends helping hand along the way is an olive branch that everyone needs now and then... whether you choose to accept it is up to you.
Best wishes to you on your journey...
Darcie

So true. We are all going through the same journey but each of us have different roads to take. Good that you too found your way here... Hugs..

All I can say after reading that is AMEN Brother.

Life is what you make it, and it's your path and destiny to make. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and sometimes, we have to self discover ourselves first, before we can be anything for/to anyone else. Best of wishes, and blessings on your contentment and peace. Much love and hugs carla

Part of the grief journey is figuring out yourself and what you are looking for in your life ahead. It is transitional, and has been for me, trial and error. I need my alone time balanced with friendships. Finding our peace is only we can do, and only we can determine what works and doesn't work for ourselves. Good job! ~~~ Scottie

Find a new romance? Good Lord..... Wasn't one enough?!? I can't even imagine somebody being obtuse enough to even be "hinting" in that direction for me! My firstfirst plenty sufficient, i think. Very nearly 40 years worth. It's hard enough dealing with a few friends and family pushing at me to "move forward". I love them all, but they just don't get it, okay. We ARE TRYING to "move forward"; It's just excruciating at times.
Some days, MANY days, I don't want to move out of bed, or out of the house, or off the block.....
Here again, sometimes you just have to forgive. They don't have a flippin' clue what we are up against, inside and out.

I agree. Do what feels right for you. Don't let anyone else tell you how you should or should not live or what hobbies to take up. They cannot possibly understand what you are experiencing, even if they want to and mean well. Live your life as you wish. I hope, like you, we can all find peace one day.

Dott, You make me laugh, thinking about my sister the day or two after my husband died, saying to me over the phone(she lives across country) ,"so what are you going to do now?"(or something like that, concerning my future). A little bit premature of a question, but I guess she was just trying to help. I was so far from the answer, just thinking about my poor dead husband, and what had actually killed him, and the wholly unexpected and real end of our life now together...

kindredspirit, Agreed. The Way of grief is just as unique as each and every individual is. we are all different, even while sharing this conversation.
I have heard teachers say, that the old english word "conversation" means "manner of living". It is our way of living, which others are able to observe.
Ahhh, but trouble so soon arises while during communication, that so much of ourselves is invisible to others.. even to our closest comrades.
Communicate (in old english, meant "give") adds more problems to each translator..for words and actions and human shortcomings all combine to smudge out what we write in the dust, with our finger.
The essence of our "selves" is elusive, mysterious, and known only to our hearts. At each moment. For our hearts are not static. I am not the same today, as I was a year ago. nor are you. Or any of us.
One size does not Fit all.
So, caveat emptor "buyer beware". Use caution about free advise. It will cost you more than advise which has been hard-earned!
I believe we have all received unrequested advice from non-grieving people. Even experts. That can hurt us more than a weapon intended for War is capable of. and tends to linger in the air, where we wish we could set them straight.
This, the “most unkindest cut of all.”. my friend.
Love,
Barb.