Widows & Widowers Support Group
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I had to change over and use my husband's cell phone as mine was giving me trouble. I had it all changed over to my number and of course started looking at pictures etc.
I looked at the texts I sent him and he sent back to me. He would type "I miss you" and I was gone only for groceries and medications and I would be gone about 3 to 4 hours.
I happened across my sister's texts to him, and I found my hubby telling her to "call, come see your sister, she's having a rough time with all of it",
It was about hospice and the cancer getting worse, caregiving, etc.
My sister replied to him about how much I loved him and he told her, "Letty is my baby".
I cannot tell you how wonderful it felt to see those words because he was so sick and not wanting to tell me so as not to worry me even more.
But I was his "baby" his love. Tears came to me immediately and I felt this ache for him in my heart. But I will treasure those simple words forever.
Oh how grief can be insufferable.
It's been 16 -1/2 months now. I still wear my wedding band and always will. He bought it for me when he had to go with the Army and train Alpini Solders in Italy. They climbed the Alps. My husband is gone but my love for him lives on until we meet again.
Letty
I looked at the texts I sent him and he sent back to me. He would type "I miss you" and I was gone only for groceries and medications and I would be gone about 3 to 4 hours.
I happened across my sister's texts to him, and I found my hubby telling her to "call, come see your sister, she's having a rough time with all of it",
It was about hospice and the cancer getting worse, caregiving, etc.
My sister replied to him about how much I loved him and he told her, "Letty is my baby".
I cannot tell you how wonderful it felt to see those words because he was so sick and not wanting to tell me so as not to worry me even more.
But I was his "baby" his love. Tears came to me immediately and I felt this ache for him in my heart. But I will treasure those simple words forever.
Oh how grief can be insufferable.
It's been 16 -1/2 months now. I still wear my wedding band and always will. He bought it for me when he had to go with the Army and train Alpini Solders in Italy. They climbed the Alps. My husband is gone but my love for him lives on until we meet again.
Letty
I have very little left of my life with Cliff, but I have the love letters, his poems and songs he wrote just for me, cards, and yes e-mails! We used to e-mail each other back and forth during the day - which was silly really as we spent all of our off time together. And we called each other, too. For months I caught myself picking up the phone to call him from work - oh that hurt....
I am so glad you found those messages.
Love and Hugs,
Martha
I say yes. Even with the heartache. But I always knew and told my husband that as much as I didn't want him to leave me if it were me first, then who would take care of him?? So I had to be here for him.
I wanted it that way, to care for him during his most vulnerable time of his life. I miss him so much.
thanks you all. I wish you all so much goodness to come forward in life because this pain has got to turn into memories and peace.
I wish all of you freedom from heartache.
Letty
Peace, Tim
I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with you. But then I realized that you spent the rest of your life with me.
It sounds like your husband would be glad that he went first. Just think how devastated hed be without you, if you went first.
This quote gave me a sense of comfort, knowing that my husband didnt have to lose me; hed have a hard time. Or at least I tell myself he would!
1. Click at the top right of any Facebook page and select Settings
2. Click Download a copy of your Facebook data below your General Account Settings
3. Click Start My Archive
You'll also need access to the account's email address. When the archive is ready, you'll receive an email notification that will contain a download link for everything they have ever done on FaceBook. You can also choose to download only portions, like all of their photos.
My wife and I always shared all account info and passwords, so by knowing each other's information, I was able to retrieve many precious photos and her contact list of friends from her account. This helped me find and communicate with them after she died.