I've been debating as to whether to put this my journal or add it here but decided to add it here, hopefully to help others. I apologize for the long post.
Regardless of what I say I know there will be those that refuse to believe and to each his own, but here is my own experience.
Two days after my wife passed, like most of us here I was distraught more than I would have believed possible. Besides the feeling of guilt at not being able to prevent my wife's passing I had to know if there was more to life or whether it was simply like a light switch, alive/on, dead/off.
I started looking up psychics, realizing that there are a great number frauds and phonies out there, just waiting to tell you what you think you want to hear. I finally found someone here in Canada, very reputable, and on the recommendation of others but could not see her for 1 1/2 months after scheduling an appoint. due to her schedule. I finally saw her on March 30th.
The session was recorded(I was allowed to bring my own digital recorder) and even though a session is usually 45-70 minutes long, she allowed me to stay over 3 1/2 hours and my recorder ran the entire time, using an SD card to record on.
Without going into detail as to what was said, and because of the length of time involved I will say this. Prior to the appointment she only knew my first name, absolutely nothing else about me. My name is nowhere on the internet and it was a cash transaction so nothing with my name was involved. She didn't know why I had come because when I arrived I was asked not to give out any information because it would interfere with the reading, which I didn't.
I had my recorder running the entire time while she explained how our higher or spiritual selves are different than our physical selves.
Once she said she was ready to start, she still didn't know who I was there for or why I was there but she started talking based on what she felt coming through.
She told me things no one, and I mean no one could possibly know because they were very close personal things between my wife and myself, even so far as to bring up a personal joke between my wife and myself.that no one, not even my chidren knew about. And she said it word for word. There was much more to this and I'd be happy to talk to others about it but this is getting pretty long.
The basic point I'd like to make is that this person told me things casually and with certainty that others couldn't possibly know or guess at and convinced me that no one but my wife could be saying. She even burst out laughing after mentioning a personal saying my wife used to say to me all the time, thinking she must have made a mistake in the reading but I understood it. At one point she stopped and told me about my father who passed away a year ago and waned to make his presence known as well as my uncle who passed away 7 years ago. She knew my uncle was my mother's brother, even telling me the name of his daughter so I would know the message was from him. She also described my father exactly to a tee, and gave me a message from him.
She went back to my wife then because she said hers was the main and strongest presence in the room.
I was told that when someone passes, they have the same pesonality as when they were in the physical, the same sense of humour, etc..
They simply leave the physical form behind like discarding a coat. It was explained to me more fully but that's basic idea.
Again, there is much, much more I haven't said because this is long enough already but although I left there in tears and still miss my wife more than I can say, I also left with a feeling of peace that still lasts today and has helped me to deal with this in a different way.
I've always been a believer in God but this has reafirmed my faith more than I can say.