silverfoxwife,
I can completely relate to how you are feeling. There have been so many situations that have occurred since John's passing that I would have depended on him for support. Without them, we feel so alone. It makes such a difference in how you can accept life's challenges when you know someone else is right there with you. Several years after John passed, I finally sought out the help from a grief counselor. I feel so fortunate that I have had him to help me through multiple family deaths, including my two brothers and sister, my son's addiction problem, and other major life issues. I don't know if you have ever gone this route; but maybe a therapist could help you, too. Just a suggestion. So very sorry that your daughter has decided to divorce her husband when it's not a mutual decision and there are young children. I know you are sick over this; just wish there was something I could say that would help you. I am hoping someone else responds to you that might be of help. It seems as if this site is so very different than when I joined years ago, not very active with responses after a posting. Hugs to you.
Roxanne

Thank you so much for your caring advice. I just needed a place to voice my worries since I can’t let it out on other platforms. Really thankful for your reply. Hope you have a good day.

Totally relate to your feelings, many times in the past 11 years since my husband has passed, my family needed his wisdom, strength and love to get thru difficult emotional times, oh how we miss his support! I always try to think, what would John do and follow what he says and yep I still talk to him, must be a crazy widow thing, haha. Thankfully this site allows us to express our feelings and thoughts without judgment. We all think yep been there, done that too. Take care, Jan.

Hi Jan, thank you. I have done the same talking to my husband.as if he is still here. I need his help more than ever now. My daughter is creating a lot of stress to everyone especially to me. If it wasn’t for the grandchildren’s well being, I would have not bothered with her.

Thank you for your comforting comments.

Have a nice day

Thank you for your comforting comments. I also talk to my husband as if he is here. He usually comes into my dreams and I find comfort knowing he’s around. Lately that hasn’t happened and I needed his advice more than ever to deal with our daughter who is creating stress to herself and to me. Sigh,

Yeah, my husband died in March 12 years ago. Coincidentally, a friend's mother died on the anniversary of his passing, and her funeral was a few days later. After attending it, I started thinking, where have the years gone? When I met "Sheila," hubby and I were living across the street from her son and daughter-in-law, and their baby. Hubby's parents, and mine were all alive and relatively healthy.

The parents are all gone now, and Hubby, too. Neighbor's kids are grown, a couple of them are married and have their own children.

Well Silverfoxwife, I totally get what you wrote. It has been ten years since my hubby died and yet many, many, many times I know he would have the right words to help our daughter find her way. The family dynamic has changed so much since he has died. The past two years with Covid has not helped. I was just walking the dog and thinking, nobody could understand what I feel. I logged on after being absent for so long on this site. It was the right thing to do for me. I am not alone. Many of us are in the same boat : grief has no expiry date. Thinking of you all and not feeling so alone now. Big virtual hug. Driftersoul

Our 10 year wedding anniversary would have been April 20, 2022 (we were friends for 18 years). He died in August 2021. Due to his memory loss and cancer he was forced out of my loving care by his attorney sister and heartless family a year before his death. I'm still very broken. Grateful for DS support. Gentle hugs to all who are walking through grief.