I would like to add, my son lives at home and was a college student until his father passed and he then dropped out for now...understandable. He works at a Marina seasonally. Both of his friends also worked at this Marina. Going to work is a constant reminder of his loss, they are like a family there. He has to work long hours now and feels pressure and obligation towards the Marina. This whole thing seems so unreal, we live in a very small close knit community and have suffered so many unusual losses the last ten years. These are not the only losses we have suffered so my son is not new to this game. One of the kickers is that for the last 4 months my now 22 year old son has been dating a 34 year old exotic dancer with a 14 year old daughter. My psychologist said he gave the relationship one month...it is passed that....help

You're losses are great and I'm sorry. We have different ways of getting through the loss and it appears that your son is dealing his way. I don't think he can help you with your loss now as he's struggling with his own. Take time to be your own best friend and do as you need for you.

The closest I've come to this was when my dad died. We struggle alone, but together, each in our own way. Sharon

I am at ten months yesterday. My Linda passed in her sleep while I was at work. I left that morning and kissed her good bye. I came back five hours later and she was gone. She wasn't feeling bad or at least didn't say she was. everything was normal as usual.

I am so sorry you are going thru this. But I am glad you found this site. It is very helpful and the folks here really do care. Everyone is compassionate and have a good heart.
It sounds like your son is scared more than resentful. It probably looks like resentment, but everything he draws strength from as a young man finding his own way has been taken away. And now he feels the safety of having his father and friends is gone. And he may be feeling like he has to be the man and is not sure how. It's new territory for him.
I think with the help of good family therapy and some time he will find his way again. what he is feeling is different from your grief.
For your grief you have to take care of your healing in this. Your life partner has been taken away. Your life want go back to the way it was. The most important is to not rush yourself and take on too much. Be patient with you.
I know as a parent you hurt and worry about your kids but they are adult age and need to find their own way. All you can do is be supportive when they need it and if they make mistakes as adults there isn't much you can do. But still let them know how much you love and care about them.
Right now at six months you already know the pain and grief that goes along with this. I don't know if your a lady of faith but if you are draw from it. It will get you thru.
Again I'm sorry you or anyone else has to go thru this level of hurt and pain. It is nothing I could have prepared for myself.

Take care.
Peace, Tim

Thank you Shrn and Tim for your support and advise. Tim, you reminded me of facts about my son's position I had forgotten about. Thank you, if I keep those ideas in my mind I might be better able to cope and to help him cope. I am sad others like yourselves are going through this pain. Yet I feel grateful to have found this group, maybe I won't feel so alone and can be of support to others. Like everyone says " a club no one wants to join."

Thank you

Everyone does go through grief very differently and everyone has different lives but the one thing if I could suggest is to try and be there for your son and I think sitting there in the kitchen maybe one morning and don't say anything he may open up....it has worked with me in the past...(((Hugs)))))