How does one experience anger, without expressing it? How many ways and venues are there to express anger? How many forms can it take, and how many of them are socially acceptable, and healthy? We can externalize it, or internalize it. Is verbal abuse one of the softer forms of externalized anger? In my 40 years of experience working with the mentally ill, the criminally insane, raging conduct disordered youth ect., I found that verbal abuse was the purist, and least harmful expression of anger. Pyschological abuse although also appearing as a softter expression of anger, far more harmful, at least over time. 

With that said, I am encouraging more tolerance by all, for one of the least damaging forms of anger expression left to those experiencing it.