Jaxmate I too have had the problem of not wanting to eat anything. My husband passed 8 weeks ago and I have lost 30 lbs since his passing. I have no desire to eat anything but atleast have been able to choke down some protein type shakes to keep myself going. I used to love to cook for my husband and he loved it when I did but it hurts too much to think about doing it now. Suggestions would be helpful as well.

My husband passed a little over a year ago and I was the same way. My kids asked me to text picks of what I had been eating. They were a little worried. This went on for about 6 months. The month of my birthday I just started comfort eating instead and have gained about 8 lbs. Take care of your self if not eating maybe try a protein shake with vitamins.

Lostmytruelove, do you have people telling you that you're losing too much weight and that you need to eat? Duh, we know that. I don't think they get that it's not that simple for us.

Thank you Kimberlina. You give me hope that this too will pass.

I had lost over 40lbs! My friends would say"l don't mean to hurt you but you look like sh--." The neighbors would bring food and invite me over. I have now gained back the 40lbs! I didn't feel like eating as well, and at first even if I ate I still lost weight. Now, even though I'm not cooking yet and becoming more adjusted to this grief the weight has come back. I'm eating more carbs than I use to. Just as with sleep coming back so will your appetite.. by the way,I have not cooked anything since he died,he always said I was a great cook. Can't bear to pull out a pot or pan. It's been 4months.thank goodness for great neighbors and the pizza delivery man.lol.

Hi Jaxmate, you have to remember to at least eat something even if it is a peanut butter sandwich, if you pick away that is ok to. But always remember to drink lots of water. If you don’t you will become weak and dehydrated. I did that as well when I lost my husband and yes I didn’t eat to much for a very long time and I still don’t, my eating habits have changed. Sometimes I just have a salad for a meal. I lost 50 pounds but that was caused from the stress as well. I think all of us here change our eating habits as well.
Please take care and even if it is a few bites it is a few bites, no one knows what it is like to loose a loved one and they should not be telling you what to eat and your loosing to much weight. They have no idea what it is like and the toll it takes on you and your mind and your body. It changes everything.
Take care of you and I hope this helps. Hugs Dianna

Sunrise, Thanks for sharing.
I've have lobster tails in my freezer that I bought to celebrate Kurt & my birthdays. Lobster, lobster and lobster are my top three favorite foods.
Like you I'm not cooking for myself yet. I hope that someday soon the lure of the lobster will become irresistible and force me to pull out a pan.

Thank you, Diana. I'm halfway to that 50 lb. loss but fear fading away less because you didn't.
And thanks for reminding me about the importance of water. I'm off to down a glass right now.
EJ

Jaxmate, just make sure you have lots of butter before you get that pan out! maybe a little old Bay seasoning, garlic!!! Getting that pan out yet??? Take care of yourself.

Sunrise, LOL. Thanks.

Anytime kid!

When Glenda was ill, and even after she passed I lost about 25 lbs. Much of my lack of appetite was guilt and stress ie. why should I eat when she can't, plus I don't eat when highly stressed. I've gained back around 5-7 lbs at this point. The lobster sounds good though!

Rick, I was always a comfort eater, but that appears to have turned 180 degrees along with many other aspects of my past life. You give me hope that weight gain may be in my future. Thanks, guy.

I dropped about 15 pounds in the first 6 weeks. I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep. I had to cook for my sons - growing guys eat! But my biggest culinary fan was gone, and cooking had been something I used to enjoy in large part because Cliff loved my cooking. The office blonde bimbo asked me what diet I was on because I'd lost so much weight. Yeah, 235 pounds and his name was Cliff....

Anyway, eventually my appetite came back, and then the comfort foods started. I gained it all back, and then some! It's hard now to lose the extra - age and hormones, etc.

Hang in there. Maybe invite a friend over for dinner. A friend at work and I used to take turns making lunch for the two of us. That was fun, and it meant I didn't have to always pack my lunch or eat out (which gets expensive). We had totally different cooking styles, so we learnt from each other. Just a thought.

I can only stand lobster if it's out of the shell. I can't cope with cracking a giant thing that looks like a big red sea bug (one of the few things I am wimpy about). Garlic and butter though, maybe with a touch of white wine and fresh basil.......

Love and Hugs,
Martha

Thanks, Martha. I'm taking on board your excellent suggestion that I invite a friend over for dinner as soon as I'm able to eat again. Maybe we'll share those lobster tails...
Thanks to all the cooking tips my mind is saying "Yum" while I wait for my body to stop saying "Meh".