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Yes, I have signs, too; and I love it! My husband and I used to walk in the evenings and would play a game as to how much we could find in change. It was usually a penny or, if really lucky, a nickel or a dime. Whoever found the most was "the winner." John has been gone for six years now, and I find pennies in the oddest places. I feel these are signs from him letting me know he is watching over me.
Roxanne
They were out in the middle of the lake on a houseboat and a beautiful Monarch butterfly flew inside and landed on the table for a minute and slowly flew out. My daughter said to everyone do you think that was Dad's Spirit? They all cried and said for sure. He was just saying he is alright and to have a good time.
Lake Powell is over 2000 miles of beach and desert no trees. For this butterfly to be out in the middle of this lake is not heard of.
My family has been going there for years and never seen one.
They were out in the middle of the lake a couple of days later on float tubes when two more Monarchs flew up and landed on their tubes. My one daughter said you know who the second butterfly is.
It's Uncle Gary. (My Brother who had passed four years before).
He loved Lake Powell and had his Ashes scattered over it.
The Girls said they started to cry but felt at peace at the same time.
I believe we have had to many signs for it not to be them.
Happy Trails and Peace............Gail
Peace and ((hugs))
~John
She has a Cardinal that comes sits on her living window sill and taps on her window. If she goes to the kitchen it flys around the house lands on the window sill and taps on the glass to get her attention.
Think Ken was here today.
My cat and I were sitting cuddling in the livingroom. Only us in the apt. Something fell off the counter. Allister my cat perked right up ran for the kitchen.
I went out and a sharp knife had fallen off the counter.. hmm not sure how that happend.
I just stared at it. I said out loud, Hun, are you messing with that clock?
I left it alone. The next morning it was working again, just not the correct time now.
I told someone about this and he said, oh, how creepy. I told him, NO, I could never be afraid of my husband. For me it wasn't creepy at all. Then he understood and thought I was right.
Other little things too.
I always ask him to be my guardian Angel, if he can.
My husband was not a Christian when we met. Through the years, he began attending church and eventually was confirmed. At that time, I gave him a cross pendant for his necklace. (there is another story to this pendant. For now, I'll just say it was special for a few reasons). When he was taken to the local hospital, the nurse came out of the ER and gave me his chain and bracelet, but no pendant. I made a comment about it, and figured I'd follow up later. Other events prevailed and I forgot about it. He was then transported by air ambulance and taken to a bigger hospital. From there he had an echo done, then spent some time in the cath lab and finally landed in his hospital room. The room was big. There were 4 IV stands, a respirator, etc. etc. This all happened in the wee hours of the morning, and I did not get to really see him until about 8:00 am. After standing by his bed for a while, I sat down and scanned the room. out of the corner of my eye I saw something shiny. I looked down and there was his cross. It was pretty much right beside me. However, it was not right beside his bed, so it isn't like it just fell off of him. Also, about half an hour later, the cleaning staff came by and thoroughly swept the floor. So had I not been in the room when I was who knows if it would have been swept away.
When telling of my find, I said to my sister-in-law that it must have been stuck under an electrode or something (although I still didn't understand how it would have been a couple of feet from his bedside). She was the Echo tech on call that night and said that, first of all, for the cath lab everything is taken off the chest. It is completely bare. She was in the lab for a while and did recall them being confused about what they were seeing. She heard the doctor ask if he had a nipple ring. If you knew my husband at all, you would know he did not have a nipple ring. She told the doctor that, but didn't understand why they were asking about that. She later got the pictures (I have some of them) and there is his cross sitting right over his heart, clear as day in the x-ray.
The other baffling thing is that she herself did the echo before and she said she would have had the probe all over his heart. There is virtually no way that she would not have noticed a gold cross in the way.
To this day we have no idea how it travelled to all those places and made it beside my chair (well....we kind of do). That necklace and pendant are always around my neck. My mom said in those hours in the hospital I was often holding the cross even though I really hadn't noticed that I was. I still find that I do that a lot.
We've noticed a few ongoing things, but they do seem to be lessening, or else I'm just not recognizing them as much anymore.
K.
Love and Hugs,
Martha