Widows & Widowers Support Group
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It's a lot longer for some of us than others (about 48 years for me), but do you remember what it was like to be looking for a mate? There was that constant yearning in the heart - knowing you had to connect. It was painful.
Then, finally, fulfillment. Over the years I forgot the feeling. I had my love.
I have been trying to explain what I feel now, besides the terrible feeling of loneliness - and this is it. I have that constant yearning again. I want a mate, but not just any mate. I want my Charlie. I need to connect. Nothing else will ever replace that yearning.
Julie
Then, finally, fulfillment. Over the years I forgot the feeling. I had my love.
I have been trying to explain what I feel now, besides the terrible feeling of loneliness - and this is it. I have that constant yearning again. I want a mate, but not just any mate. I want my Charlie. I need to connect. Nothing else will ever replace that yearning.
Julie
This is EXACTLY how I felt early on. Wanting HIM back. NO ONE else...JUST HIM.
and now? I am at apoint where the ache for him I know will always be there, but KNOW that there is no one to replace him. there is NO ONE like him. ONE OF A KIND ALWAYS and why I loved and love him so.
Now, I KNOW that, and can look to people for who they are instead of who i WANT them to be. LONG road and I am not all the way there yet...but a work in progress. i think that's what we all are....a work in progress though this walk and the many to follow...
HUGE HUGS and understanding! It will be easier to think of him and be happy for what was instead of what is no longer. xoxoxo Diane
I believe I will find another one day. She may be like Jan or she may be completely different. She won't be Jan and I won't love her like I love Jan but I will love her just as much. It will just be different, not less or more, just different.