Hi Wendy: Sounds to me like you are doing just fine. At 3 months the pain is raw, your life is so different and just to put one foot in front of the other is a big feat. Be kind to yourself, don't expect too much of yourself and keep going the way you are. Something tells me you are a strong and confident woman that in time, will be just fine. Take care, Cindy xxoo

Wendy,
I am now at nine months. At three months I think the numbness wore off and the reality and the finality of it all set in and it felt overwhelming. Now I still have so much sadness but not that all consuming feeling of being so lost. Pieces of my "new" life are starting to settle in and I am gradually healing. Grief will have it's day and stuffing it down will only prolong it. Don't expect antidepressants to stop the grief; they only make it bearable until you can get through the worst of it. You are in the worst of it, but it will get better. KT

thank you for sharing. This is the third night of being alone and
Im crying all the time. Im seeing the doctor tommorrow and will get some meds. thank you for making me feel not so alone
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Crying is is a given almost every day..and Stilla is the eyeliner to use.............lol..........there is just no way to end this pain I think.........can go for a few hours before I feel the thud in my middle that takes my breath away when I remember Norm is not here and not coming back..........I hate it......

My zoloft is only 25 mg, maybe I will get it upped. Thank you for all of your replies. Hugs, Wendy

a week from tomorrow will be 6 months for me and I am crying all the time. I go to work and therapy and groups and take meds. I dont know what else to do I miss him so much. prayers, Ellen

In 10 days I will be at 7 months. For many of us the shock does last for a while, then the raw pain really hits. This is probably what you feel now. There will be setbacks too. Although it doesn't happen to me much now, some little thing might trigger a meltdown. Two nights ago I did not sleep all night, even though I took a pill. I think it was because I am starting to plan a move to live alone, which terrifies me. A lot of us have been where you are now, and sometimes end up back there temporarily. However it happens, we do keep going. I will be here for you too. Hugs, Patti

Tomorrow is the start of my 7th week and I also am crying most of the time. I did have two days this past weekend that were good and I cannot figure out why. I wasn't any busier than usual, but for some reason.... But on Monday and again today I have had periods of crying. Just about anything can bring it on. I guess it is all part of healing. I also was on the lowest dose of Zoloft and spoke with my doc and she increased it. Since it is a build up drug I guess that it will take awhile. I absolutely hate taking it but right now it is necessary.Try to hang in there Wendy
Hugs, Pat

It's OK to cry - it's comforting, relieving and healthy but make sure to drink lots of water so you don't dehydrate.

You might also rupture blood vessels in your eye - that's what I'm dealing with now. The doctor was a bit nonplussed when I told her that I cry every day until I explained why.

It is 12 weeks today. I decided to take two zoloft every second day. This is still only 50 mg. Dr herself said 25mg is a baby dose. I'm sure it will take a few times to help. I can't say thank you enough for all of you for being there for me. Hugs, Wendy

I am at just over 10 months and I have not gone a day without crying. It's not as bad, as often, or as hard, but I cry. Then again some days I cry real hard. I have learned that it's not going to be over in a day or a week or a month or even a year. Accepting that I am going to cry and have sad times and giving myself permission to do so, just seems to help me get thru it much better. Don't expect too much from yourself, it's been a very short time.
Hugs,
Kathy