Jewels60, I wouldn't think of it as morbid at all. You should do whatever brings you comfort and honors his memory. If anyone were to ask about your pendant you could tell them it's your Guardian Angel.

I think a pendant would be nice. I would want my wife's ashes to be close to me. Chris

Julie, not morbid at all! I have seen lovely pendants online, and I may order one.
My friend got a beautiful one at Tiffanys, and had her mother's ashes put in. She says it's very comforting wearing it, she feels like she had her mom close to her.

Hugs,
Janie

Jewels60,
At the time of my wifes passing, I considered keeping some of her ashes. Her sister also asked if she could keep some for a locket. At the time, I decided I didnt want pieces of her in many different places. Her sister understood and was ok with that. But. Here is what happened. Every time I would visit the spot in the mountains where her ashes were spread, I would pick up a fragment and bring it home with me. When her sister and brother came out to visit, they also picked up a few tiny fragments. It is hard to sort out your emotions when trying to make such decisions. Maybe someday I will return her fragments, maybe not. Till then they sit on my dresser in a tiny box. Morbid no, cherished yes.
Martin

I bought 2 pendants when my husband died and gave them to our 2 daughters. They both love them and find comfort wearing them when they are going through a hard time. Sometimes I wish I had gotten one for myself.

I think it is a great idea. I may do the same.

I don't think it is morbid at all - I had the same feelings as aloneishard, when my kids asked if they could have necklaces made - I still feel that way, I don't want my wife spread out in different places.

When my wifes mother passed, I bought her a necklace with an angel pendant and her moms bith-stone - I told her that by wearing it should could have her mom close to her heart, she never removed it. When my wife passed I gave it to my sister-in-law so that she could have both her mother and sister next to her heart.

My wife is resting next to her mother in a double earn on our china cabinet, it is what she wanted, so it is what I have done. - the one thing I have learned is that no two of us are the same.

Whatever gives you the comfort, you need, is ok.
Hugs Sandra

I would have NEVER had Morey cremated. In his Will it's what he wanted. I did as he requested and I'm so glad that I did.

I, too, could NEVER scatter his ashes, although it did cross my mind, for only a second to do it at sea. But, I couldn't.

He rests in a beautiful mahogany & brass box on a table in our bedroom. Next to him is his beloved Black Lab, Brenda.

I'm so glad he's with me. I talk to him all the time, it gives me comfort.

The children come over, go to the bedroom, close the door and have their time alone with their Dad. They didn't like cremation but now they've changed their thinking and really like being able to be close to their Dad whenever they want.

Roz

When my mom died all three of us sisters got a silver pendant and had some of her ashes put in them. It brought me so much comfort. I don't wear it any more. It is so big. But I still keep close to me. I have spread Art's ashes in our favorite places, B.C., Bryce Canyon, Grand Canyon and Sedona. I still have a little bit of them left and I am considering getting a locket to put some in before I spread the rest here in Arizona where we have wintered for 18 years. Yes, I think that is what I will do!!! Thanks for reminding me.

You do what YOU feel is right.

People who have not been through what we have may think what we do is morbid but that is their problem.

I had a memorial tattoo (using part of my husband's ashes mixed with the ink) of his initials and a little heart on the inside of my wrist and I LOVE it (I look at every day and I feel I have a little bit of him as part of me) - some people think I'm weird (particularly as I don't like tattoos) but this tattoo feels SO RIGHT (for me).

Thanks for all the great input! I have decided to go ahead and find
a pendant to keep some of the ashes so I can feel him close to me.
It is so wonderful to be able to come to this site where everyone understands and is so supportive.Hugs to all. Julie

I got one online and it was very reasonable too. It's heart shaped with a purple stone and surrounded by silver "angel wings" on a black cord. I have gotten more compliments on it since I've been wearing it. I don't really mention to people what's inside - - they just think it's a beautiful necklace. Nothing morbid about getting compliments :)

Hi Terri I also have my husbands ashes on my bedroom dresser. I find comfort having him there but he loved the outdoors so I plan to scatter his ashes in the woods behind our home where he loved spending his time I am going to keep some of his ashes for a pendant and will keep some that I want scattered with my ashes when I pass

I had a locket ..it only had a little bottle inside for the ashes and I kept opening it and one day I opened it and the the little bottle was gone ..make sure you have a secure one...I also have been waiting for the diamond they make it out of the ashes and in October it was a year and its still not done..I don't think its morbid at all